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Asking for Help

Knowing When to Ask For Help Is Key to Aging with Dignity and Independence

Dr. Bruce A. Chernof, MD | Posted 03.10.2014 | Impact
Dr. Bruce A. Chernof, MD

You never know when you or someone you love might need daily help, such as assistance getting groceries, help with transportation or round the clock care, all of which require planning and coordination.

How to Scream for Help

Heather Kopp | Posted 10.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Heather Kopp

As soon as we give up hope that we can save ourselves from ourselves, as soon as we're willing to put down our pride and cry out for rescue, God shows up in a yellow shirt. And we are saved.

Why I Never Assume Other Mothers Have It Together

Nicole Dash | Posted 09.22.2013 | Parents
Nicole Dash

This blond-haired woman, who at first glance seemed perfectly put together, was secretly falling apart because of the overwhelming impact having two children only 15 months apart was having on her ability to cope. She was a perfectionist and wanted to be good at everything, but was frustrated because she needed help.

The Paradox of Help

Randy Hain | Posted 08.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Randy Hain

A lot of thoughtful reflection, accountability from trusted friends and a sincere desire to change have helped me largely overcome my "help issues," although I am still far from perfect. I have learned to not only more easily accept assistance, but to seek it out from my extended network.

Valerie Jarrett: Being Whole

Valerie Jarrett | Posted 08.12.2013 | Women
Valerie Jarrett

To compete on an even playing field, we need to create our own field with teammates that respect and support what it takes for us to be healthy and whole.

How to Ask For What You Want

Catherine Chen, Ph.D. | Posted 08.12.2013 | Women
Catherine Chen, Ph.D.

I had just moved into my dream location in Brooklyn and after six years of living alone, I was sharing space with a roommate. If I was going to be more at peace with my living situation, I was going to have to ask for what I wanted. In this case, getting the dishes done within 24 hours.

What A Get-Well Card Made Me Realize About Children

Betsy Brown Braun | Posted 07.03.2013 | Parents
Betsy Brown Braun

While children might be predisposed to being empathetic, it is clear to me that active, lasting empathy is cultivated and nurtured when practiced daily in the home.

Moving Beyond the Boundaries of Fear

Cynthia Gallagher | Posted 06.29.2013 | Women
Cynthia Gallagher

Fear is something we can't live without; it is a feeling we all experience at one time or another in our daily lives. I think as a society, we live with fear in the wrong way, and after many years, I'm ready to share the story of how I turned fear into a source of inner strength.

How To Ask A Friend For What You Really Need

Nancy Colier | Posted 06.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Nancy Colier

What is it we really need when we are in pain? I believe that it is much simpler than we imagine. We need to be heard, understood and cared about. We need a friend to hold our pain with us, for a moment, without judgment, to hear and care about how we are, in truth.

5 Excuses Parents Need To Stop Making

Christine Koh | Posted 06.11.2013 | Parents
Christine Koh

When you become a parent, your priorities naturally shift. But that doesn't mean you should disappear.

17 Things To Never Do Alone

Posted 04.15.2013 | OWN

By Leigh Newman Do-it-yourself columnist Leigh Newman shows us the stuff we just need somebody (read: anybody!) to help us with. 1. Apply liqu...

The Best Parenting Advice I Ever Received

Lisa Belkin | Posted 05.12.2013 | Impact
Lisa Belkin

The best advice I ever received as a mother was "ask for help." It was given to me by one of the few of my friends who'd started this parenting thing before I had, and who'd been determined, she finally confessed, to make it look easy.

Asking for and Giving Help: We Should Do It More

Claire McCarthy, M.D. | Posted 03.24.2013 | Parents
Claire McCarthy, M.D.

I think we should practice asking for help. We can start small, like by asking for directions (although the GPS devices on our phones are rapidly making that need obsolete) or asking someone to hold the door for us when our arms are full. Baby steps are fine.

Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda: Dealing With Grief and Guilt After a Loved One Passes

Tory Zellick | Posted 03.20.2013 | Fifty
Tory Zellick

You suddenly are responsible for a life other than your own -- ensuring compliance with medication regimens, scheduling and attending doctor appointments, preparing meals, and so on. So what do you do when your Mama role comes to an end?

What I Learned From Iowa's Best-known Homemaker

Maureen Anderson | Posted 03.19.2013 | GPS for the Soul
Maureen Anderson

It reminds me what I've always thought about a happy family. Is it the most important thing in the world? Probably. Is that all there is to life? Well, no.

For Optimal Caregiving, Do This

Tory Zellick | Posted 01.07.2013 | Fifty
Tory Zellick

I was a caregiving hermit. Haunted by what-if scenarios, I was forever by my mother's side, attending to her every need, terrified to leave for even a few minutes.

Fearless Living Boot Camp, Day 19: Ask For Help! (VIDEO)

Rhonda Britten | Posted 11.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Rhonda Britten

What I know to be absolutely true is that NO ONE CAN BE FEARLESS ALONE. Period. End of story.

Can't Ask for Help

CT Working Moms | Posted 10.28.2012 | Parents
CT Working Moms

"Hi, my name is Katie and I never ask for help."

How I Became Homeless... and How I Got Out

LearnVest | Posted 10.14.2012 | Women
LearnVest

I was once homeless, but I am not hopeless.

Dying for a Laugh: The Painful Birth of a Star

Barry Michels | Posted 09.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Barry Michels

Anyone can empathize with how uncomfortable it would be for someone with Vinny's background to ask for help. But by avoiding this vulnerability, Vinny had effectively dead-ended his career.

Whatever You Do, Don't Ask for Help... You Might Just Discover It Works

Karen Kimsey-House | Posted 09.01.2012 | Fifty
Karen Kimsey-House

If you put relationships first and take time to really connect with the people that you work and live with, life becomes so much more satisfying.

Do You Have Trouble Accepting Help?

Erin Joy Henry | Posted 11.07.2011 | Healthy Living
Erin Joy Henry

Hi, my name is Erin. I'm a recovering "I don't need any help" person. I've been uncomfortable receiving and asking for help as long as I can remember.

It's OK To Ask For Help

Mike Robbins | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

Requesting support can often make us feel vulnerable. We usually think (somewhat erroneously) that we should be able to do everything ourselves or that by admitting we need help, we are somehow being weak.

Men and Asking for Help

Dr. Daniel Seidman | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Dr. Daniel Seidman

What is it about men that makes them think that asking for help seems like a weakness, not a strength? Why do we place such a high value on "toughing it out," especially when it can cut us off from optimal solutions?

The Power Of Asking For Help

Kari Henley | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Kari Henley

All around us are people who are available to help us in some way. The challenge is being brave enough to ask.