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Assertiveness

Get in Touch With Your Inner Bossiness

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 04.02.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

Recently, Sheryl Sandberg launched the "Ban Bossy" campaign to help girls and women develop their leadership skills by ridding themselves of the B-word mental shackles.

Be Your Own Advocate (If You Don't, Who Will?)

Joanna_Montgomery | Posted 03.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Joanna_Montgomery

Raise your hand. Ask questions. Listen to your gut. And when in doubt, check it out. You're worth it. Wouldn't you rather risk having someone think you ask an awful lot of questions than to find yourself laying on your death bed wishing you'd spoken up when you had that bad feeling?

8 Ways to Say No Without Ruining Your Reputation

Adam Grant | Posted 03.12.2014 | Business
Adam Grant

Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most. But the rest of the time, how do you say no without burning bridges and jeopardizing your reputation?

Stop Calling Assertive Women B*tches

Sarah Fader | Posted 04.23.2014 | Parents
Sarah Fader

When I was a little girl, I believed the way to get others to like me was to be nice. I shouldn't be confrontational. It would be wrong to express anger, because that would make me look "crazy" or "wild." The brainwashing from society starts young.

4 Ways To Become More Empowered

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 02.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

The substantial effort and work that are required for us to demonstrate a real influence in our environment is extremely worthwhile, as it is guaranteed to produce not only real life improvements but psychological and emotional payoffs that are just as valuable and even longer lasting.

What Does Assertiveness Have to Do with Stopping Bullying?

Signe Whitson | Posted 10.26.2013 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Unlike the aggression that underlies bullying, assertive behavior does not depreciate or cause harm. Rather, assertiveness is a healthy way of defining personal boundaries.

What Men Call Me When I Ask for What I Want

Daylle Deanna Schwartz | Posted 09.25.2013 | Women
Daylle Deanna Schwartz

It's an old story that hasn't changed enough. Men can be aggressive and abrasive and earn respect, but women get called names when we stand up for ourselves, even nicely.

This Is The Most Powerful Word In The Dictionary

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

The ability to be assertive and say "no" is a communication skill we all learn at a very young age. If you're a parent, you know better than anyone that once this word enters a child's vocabulary it's used very often. However, as an adult, "no" is often much more difficult to say.

Want to Worry Less and Achieve More?

Helene Lerner | Posted 05.18.2013 | Women
Helene Lerner

Your instincts and judgments are good. Pick your issues and go with what you believe is right. Once you make a decision, don't second-guess yourself. It's not a productive use of your energy.

Being Too Nice Can Hurt: How To Start Standing Up For Yourself

Posted 11.17.2012 | Healthy Living

By Art Markman for YouBeauty When you look at the other people in your life, there are lots of ways that you are the same. You speak the same langu...

Why 'Me Time' Is A Vital Aspect Of Healthy Living

Meg Wolff | Posted 12.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Meg Wolff

Don't get me wrong, helping others can bring us great joy, but we have to watch that we don't overdo and risk being of no help to anyone. By scheduling time for ourselves, we are able to be both helpful and healthy.

14 Ways To Communicate Better

Andrea Wachter | Posted 12.29.2012 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

It's not possible for the weather to be 70 degrees with a light breeze every day, and it's not possible for relationships to go smoothly all the time. There are going to be glitches, and we can get better at dealing with them.

WATCH: Your Turn: Saying No

Posted 10.09.2012 | MarloThomas

Are you always putting others before yourself? For many of us, it's hard to say no, but sometimes speaking up for ourselves is the right thing to do. ...

11 Signs You Need To Change Course

Christy Matta, M.A. | Posted 09.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Christy Matta, M.A.

It is possible to change how you communicate with others. You may have habitual ways of interacting, but like driving or playing the piano, communicating is a skill that can be practiced and learned.

What I Learned from Madeleine Albright

Women 2.0 | Posted 07.23.2012 | Women
Women 2.0

What we have come to clearly know now, Ms. Albright knew well back then: Self-promotion and asking for what you want and need are among the most essential keys to a woman's success.

Words to Say When You Need to Stand Up for Yourself

Christy Matta, M.A. | Posted 07.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Christy Matta, M.A.

We all smooth over the truth and bend in our standards from time to time in order to reduce conflict and make relationships work. But when pleasing others becomes a habit you may find yourself resentful, which ultimately damages your relationships.

Are You Two At It Again? Why Sibling Rivalry is Good for Kids

Signe Whitson | Posted 05.19.2012 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Whether in times of war or periods of peace, there is one thing sibling relationships have in common: Siblings can be each others' very best teachers.

Do Mean Girls Win at Work?

Marcia Reynolds | Posted 05.13.2012 | Women
Marcia Reynolds

In truth, what it takes for a woman to win is not that much different from a man.

How To Be More Assertive -- And Feel Good About It!

Posted 03.04.2012 | Healthy Living

By Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Somebody cuts in front of you in the grocery store line. You're irritate...

Are You Aggressive or Assertive? Frantic or Focused?

Lisa Earle McLeod | Posted 04.22.2012 | Healthy Living
Lisa Earle McLeod

Are you aggressive or assertive? They might seem like the same thing, but they're not.

Can Friendships Withstand Declining an Invitation at Holiday Time?

Signe Whitson | Posted 02.18.2012 | Parents
Signe Whitson

I'm knee-deep now and I know that if I acquiesce, I'm going to spend the next few days feeling resentful, not to mention unnecessarily subjecting my kids to the stomach flu!

3 Ways To Communicate Personal Boundaries

John Tsilimparis | Posted 02.15.2012 | Healthy Living
John Tsilimparis

Assertive communication is a more suitable way to express our thoughts, feelings and beliefs in an honest, authentic and non-violating manner. Like aggressive and passive communication, it also does not guarantee we will get what we want, but it's the best shot we have.

Hidden Anger: How to Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior in Kids

Signe Whitson | Posted 01.30.2012 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Do you ever feel like parenthood has got you engaging in the same conversations over and over again? Too often at our house, we have a recurring exchange that goes something like this...

8 Leadership Skills for Work and Home

Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD | Posted 01.01.2012 | Healthy Living
Roya R. Rad, MA, PsyD

We humans need to learn many skills to be able to function most productively in different situations. Learning to be a good and effective leader is one of these skills that can be beneficial.

Four Rules for Helping Your Child Stand Up to Bullies

Signe Whitson | Posted 12.24.2011 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Parents who teach their kids how to stand up for themselves are particularly effective in countering bullying. Teach your child these four rules for using assertive communication to stand up to bullying behavior.