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Assertiveness

Are You Being Too Assertive? Not Enough?

Adoree Durayappah, M.A.P.P., M.B.A. | Posted 12.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Adoree Durayappah, M.A.P.P., M.B.A.

Many people want to be more assertive in the workplace. Being assertive can help you voice your opinions to your coworkers, help you negotiate that promotion and pay raise, and also has a number of health benefits. Many people want to be more assertive but suffer from being too passive, abandoning their good ideas or not voicing their opinions to avoid conflict with others.

Being More Assertive

Jennifer Kass | Posted 12.13.2014 | Healthy Living
Jennifer Kass

Love does not allow ourselves to be taken advantage of; love creates healthy boundaries, knows when to say no, and is staying present to what serves our highest good and what does not. Love isn't weak or confused; love is strong and clear.

4 Rules to Help Kids Stand Up to Bullying in Schools

Signe Whitson | Posted 11.02.2014 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Assertive responses are particularly effective in countering bullying because the child who masters this type of direct, emotionally honest communication demonstrates that a bully's attacks will be answered in a fair, but formidable way.

Assertiveness and Anxiety

Kathariya Mokrue, PhD | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Kathariya Mokrue, PhD

Habits can be difficult to change and replace. It takes commitment, purposeful effort, and intention to do the unfamiliar. Start by looking for situations to practice new ways of communicating.

Sexual Rejection From Your Partner Damages Your Self-Esteem

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 08.30.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

When your partner consistently avoids sex and intimacy, or on the rare occasion when they are willing, are obviously doing so reluctantly -- the accumulations of repeated rejections are likely to have a big impact on your self-esteem.

Will the Real Introverts Please Stand Up?

Scott Barry Kaufman | Posted 08.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Scott Barry Kaufman

Introversion is one of the most misunderstood dimensions of personality. What is the essence of introversion? Let's explore the core of the extraversion-introversion dimension of personality.

An Important Life Lesson You Need to Teach Your Children Starting Right Now

Katie Hurley | Posted 07.30.2014 | Parents
Katie Hurley

I want a world where being a college athlete doesn't give a guy a license to act like a jerk, and where women are appreciated and respected all of the time, even at a fraternity party.

4 Lessons Homeless Veterans Have Taught Me

Nick Holt, MSW, ASW | Posted 07.07.2014 | Impact
Nick Holt, MSW, ASW

In working with veterans for the past five years, I have learned a lot about their lives, thoughts, feelings, actions, intentions and outcomes. These learnings have reshaped the way I look at homeless veterans, myself and my community.

The Art of Pausing in Conversation: Your Weekly Wake-Up Call to Build Meaningful Relationships

Anthony Silard | Posted 07.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Anthony Silard

The ancient Greek mathematician and philosopher Pythagoras said, "Silence is better than unmeaning words." Do you sometimes say things you later regret when you 'fill the gap' during a lull in the conversation with words that are long on syllables but short on meaning?

Get in Touch With Your Inner Bossiness

Susan Krauss Whitbourne | Posted 06.02.2014 | Fifty
Susan Krauss Whitbourne

Recently, Sheryl Sandberg launched the "Ban Bossy" campaign to help girls and women develop their leadership skills by ridding themselves of the B-word mental shackles.

Be Your Own Advocate (If You Don't, Who Will?)

Joanna_Montgomery | Posted 05.19.2014 | Healthy Living
Joanna_Montgomery

Raise your hand. Ask questions. Listen to your gut. And when in doubt, check it out. You're worth it. Wouldn't you rather risk having someone think you ask an awful lot of questions than to find yourself laying on your death bed wishing you'd spoken up when you had that bad feeling?

8 Ways to Say No Without Ruining Your Reputation

Adam Grant | Posted 05.12.2014 | Business
Adam Grant

Saying no frees you up to say yes when it matters most. But the rest of the time, how do you say no without burning bridges and jeopardizing your reputation?

Stop Calling Assertive Women B*tches

Sarah Fader | Posted 04.23.2014 | Parents
Sarah Fader

When I was a little girl, I believed the way to get others to like me was to be nice. I shouldn't be confrontational. It would be wrong to express anger, because that would make me look "crazy" or "wild." The brainwashing from society starts young.

4 Ways To Become More Empowered

Guy Winch, Ph.D. | Posted 02.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Guy Winch, Ph.D.

The substantial effort and work that are required for us to demonstrate a real influence in our environment is extremely worthwhile, as it is guaranteed to produce not only real life improvements but psychological and emotional payoffs that are just as valuable and even longer lasting.

What Does Assertiveness Have to Do with Stopping Bullying?

Signe Whitson | Posted 10.26.2013 | Parents
Signe Whitson

Unlike the aggression that underlies bullying, assertive behavior does not depreciate or cause harm. Rather, assertiveness is a healthy way of defining personal boundaries.

What Men Call Me When I Ask for What I Want

Daylle Deanna Schwartz | Posted 09.25.2013 | Women
Daylle Deanna Schwartz

It's an old story that hasn't changed enough. Men can be aggressive and abrasive and earn respect, but women get called names when we stand up for ourselves, even nicely.

This Is The Most Powerful Word In The Dictionary

Michael S. Broder, Ph.D. | Posted 05.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Michael S. Broder, Ph.D.

The ability to be assertive and say "no" is a communication skill we all learn at a very young age. If you're a parent, you know better than anyone that once this word enters a child's vocabulary it's used very often. However, as an adult, "no" is often much more difficult to say.

Want to Worry Less and Achieve More?

Helene Lerner | Posted 05.18.2013 | Women
Helene Lerner

Your instincts and judgments are good. Pick your issues and go with what you believe is right. Once you make a decision, don't second-guess yourself. It's not a productive use of your energy.

Being Too Nice Can Hurt: How To Start Standing Up For Yourself

Posted 11.17.2012 | Healthy Living

By Art Markman for YouBeauty When you look at the other people in your life, there are lots of ways that you are the same. You speak the same langu...

Why 'Me Time' Is A Vital Aspect Of Healthy Living

Meg Wolff | Posted 12.31.2012 | Healthy Living
Meg Wolff

Don't get me wrong, helping others can bring us great joy, but we have to watch that we don't overdo and risk being of no help to anyone. By scheduling time for ourselves, we are able to be both helpful and healthy.

14 Ways To Communicate Better

Andrea Wachter | Posted 12.29.2012 | Healthy Living
Andrea Wachter

It's not possible for the weather to be 70 degrees with a light breeze every day, and it's not possible for relationships to go smoothly all the time. There are going to be glitches, and we can get better at dealing with them.

WATCH: Your Turn: Saying No

Posted 10.09.2012 | MarloThomas

Are you always putting others before yourself? For many of us, it's hard to say no, but sometimes speaking up for ourselves is the right thing to do. ...

11 Signs You Need To Change Course

Christy Matta, M.A. | Posted 09.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Christy Matta, M.A.

It is possible to change how you communicate with others. You may have habitual ways of interacting, but like driving or playing the piano, communicating is a skill that can be practiced and learned.

What I Learned from Madeleine Albright

Women 2.0 | Posted 07.23.2012 | Women
Women 2.0

What we have come to clearly know now, Ms. Albright knew well back then: Self-promotion and asking for what you want and need are among the most essential keys to a woman's success.

Words to Say When You Need to Stand Up for Yourself

Christy Matta, M.A. | Posted 07.13.2012 | Healthy Living
Christy Matta, M.A.

We all smooth over the truth and bend in our standards from time to time in order to reduce conflict and make relationships work. But when pleasing others becomes a habit you may find yourself resentful, which ultimately damages your relationships.