The ability to be assertive and say "no" is a communication skill we all learn at a very young age. If you're a parent, you know better than anyone that once this word enters a child's vocabulary it's used very often. However, as an adult, "no" is often much more difficult to say.
Don't get me wrong, helping others can bring us great joy, but we have to watch that we don't overdo and risk being of no help to anyone. By scheduling time for ourselves, we are able to be both helpful and healthy.
It's not possible for the weather to be 70 degrees with a light breeze every day, and it's not possible for relationships to go smoothly all the time. There are going to be glitches, and we can get better at dealing with them.
We all smooth over the truth and bend in our standards from time to time in order to reduce conflict and make relationships work. But when pleasing others becomes a habit you may find yourself resentful, which ultimately damages your relationships.
Assertive communication is a more suitable way to express our thoughts, feelings and beliefs in an honest, authentic and non-violating manner. Like aggressive and passive communication, it also does not guarantee we will get what we want, but it's the best shot we have.
Parents who teach their kids how to stand up for themselves are particularly effective in countering bullying. Teach your child these four rules for using assertive communication to stand up to bullying behavior.
As our research report in collaboration with Stanford University found, corporate America overwhelmingly values being outspoken and assertive, and swearing is nothing more than a reflection of these values.