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Assumptions

How Stereotypes Take Shape

Pacific Standard | Tom Jacobs | Posted 07.25.2014 | World

Unfair and offensive as they may be, stereotypes are ubiquitous. Logic tells us it’s ludicrous to label all, or most, members of a particular ethnic...

Healing Vigilante: 3 Quick Steps to Get Out of the C.A.J.E (Criticism, Assumption, Judgment and Evaluation)

Aimee Le Zakrewski Clark | Posted 08.23.2014 | Impact
Aimee Le Zakrewski Clark

Funnel that inner dialogue into simply what is happening in the moment -- no criticism, assumption, judgment, or evaluation.

What Happened to Our Primary Agreements?

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"

J is for Judgment

Rajesh Setty | Posted 03.20.2014 | Business
Rajesh Setty

Judgment is "the ability to make considered decisions or come to sensible conclusions." My first startup taught me a lot of lessons in the world of...

The No. 1 Thing You're Doing Every Day That's Ruining Your Life

Anthony Meindl | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Anthony Meindl

Stay open. It can be hard because we're accustomed to being closed. That's what assumptions do. But life will open up along with you as you more consciously choose thoughts, ideas and actions that affirm life.

Mind Reading: Don't Try This at Home

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Even couples who have been together for decades don't possess the ability to read each others' minds. There are always (hopefully) going to be surprises in relationships which keeps things from getting too predictable and uninteresting.

Important Distinctions Between Litigation and Mediation

Mark Baer | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Throughout the conference, the panelists kept reiterating that what occurs in court is state specific, "locale specific," and jurist specific. In other words, results vary from judge to judge based upon the judge's biases, beliefs, assumptions and values. I think this should really scare anyone and everyone.

What Does a Coach Have That You Don't Have?

Morty Lefkoe | Posted 11.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Morty Lefkoe

Ultimately the most important thing coach can do is not merely point out opportunities you can't see because of your different worldview, but help you change your own worldview.

How To Keep Facebook In Perspective

meQuilibrium | Posted 10.23.2013 | Healthy Living
meQuilibrium

Facebook was not designed to be a divine oracle. It's supposed to be fun. It's your own personalized tabloid news feed, except it's people spreading gossip about themselves. Which in itself is laughable. Keep that in mind and you'll be just fine.

Slowing Down My Snap Judgments

Deirdre Maloney | Posted 09.16.2013 | Celebrity
Deirdre Maloney

In the end, we're all just people. And so maybe we all just need to chill out and recognize that the only people who truly know what someone is living with, thinking about, and going through is that person's closest circle, and, ultimately, really just that person alone.

Is Mediation About Reaching the Same Result in a More Efficient and Economical Manner?

Mark Baer | Posted 08.31.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

My last article on mediation, titled "Should Divorcing Couples Who Mediate Be Talking Through Counsel?," was the first of a series of articles on medi...

Decision Danger Zones

Rick McDaniel | Posted 08.03.2013 | Religion
Rick McDaniel

None of us know what the future holds, so we need to make the best decisions possible to spare ourselves problems and difficulties.

The 'Dumb Blonde'

Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton | Posted 07.13.2013 | TED Weekends
Rodolfo Mendoza-Denton

The experience and consequences of being subjected to a stereotype of low intellectual ability -- be it because one is blonde or one is black -- are remarkably similar across these different stereotypes.

The Squawk Heard 'Round the World

Rob White | Posted 06.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Rob White

My mind settled down by the time the flight attendant announced our arrival in Boston, at which point it dawned on me that Philippa was exhibiting three great human qualities: acceptance, tolerance, and forgiveness.

The Day the Factory Stood Still

Rob White | Posted 06.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Rob White

My dad and his friends weren't the only ones spooked by the news; that weekend the tenor of the whole town changed. The fury from the prior night morphed into fear, and fear devolved into panic.

Expectations and Resolutions: A Mash-Off Between Faith, Facts and Fictions

Soul Dancer | Posted 03.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

With 2013's arrival, much like a gardener using a shovel to prepare for planting (then one day, harvesting), I invite you to explore your faith, facts and fictions with the following questions (shovels) over the weeks and months ahead.

Reduce Stress: Upgrade Expectations to Agreements

Soul Dancer | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Soul Dancer

Take a moment now to ponder your definition of a fact. How do you accept something as a fact? Do you take time to verify (through first-hand experience) a fact before you accept a fact to be true? How often do you check facts?

Step Carefully in Math

Tim Chartier | Posted 01.16.2013 | Science
Tim Chartier

Mathematicians often step carefully and even warily from one logical statement to the next. One misstep can lead to inaccuracy.

Democrats Are From Mars and Republicans Are From Venus? I Don't Think So

Joseph Bubman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Politics
Joseph Bubman

Mutual understanding doesn't translate into a vote or even guarantee a change in others' beliefs. But it certainly makes the opportunity for influence more likely.

On Friendship

Ruth Neubauer | Posted 10.14.2012 | Fifty
Ruth Neubauer

Friendship continues to take so many forms that I cannot describe it in general. What I do know is that "friendship" with both men and women in my life has some essential qualities.

7 Mindsets That Cause You Stress -- And How to Get Over Them

Paula Davis-Laack | Posted 05.23.2012 | Women
Paula Davis-Laack

Many successful women hold beliefs about how they should live and work that produce faulty assumptions that can cause undue stress.

What Happens When You Assume

Maggie Lamond Simone | Posted 11.16.2011 | Parents
Maggie Lamond Simone

I assume I know my children pretty well. I know their likes, dislikes, fears and dreams. I used to know these things, anyway. Now, I'm not so sure.

Being Honest About My Biracial Daughter and Long-Haired Son

Sarah Buttenwieser | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Sarah Buttenwieser

If my kids know they are who they are -- bright, sweet, scrappy girl and smart, athletic, long-haired boy -- does it matter whether strangers know anything beyond their first impressions?

A New Movement to Abolish Nuclear Weapons

Jim Wallis | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Jim Wallis

Nuclear disarmament is a job for faith -- and for the kind of social movements that faith at its best has always inspired.

In God We Trust (All Others Pay Cash)

Stanley Bing | Posted 05.25.2011 | Business
Stanley Bing

It occurs to me this morning how many assumptions we make that enable us to keep on going without, you know, screaming, or drinking at breakfast.