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7 Strategies for Dealing With the Narcissist You Love

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 04.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

If you've tried a more loving approach to sharing what hurts in your relationship, and the narcissist in your life still won't soften, you truly have done everything you can.

Be Here Now: Where Does Your Mind Go When Things Appear to Be Going Wrong?

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 03.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

I had caught myself red-handed, not practicing what I preach, and it was a delicious moment to be reminded of where my true peace and power lie -- within, not on the 405 freeway only when the conditions are just as I think they "should be."

When Love Is a Battlefield

Mindy Utay | Posted 02.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Mindy Utay

A spouse that has gone through attachment trauma needs a strong relationship more than ever. Avoid allowing a trauma to tear your marriage apart. Seek help from a professional and begin working towards a stronger relationship for both of you.

Allow Your Children to Create a Secure World

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 02.25.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Early experiences in which your children feel safe to discover the world beyond you enables them to develop the sense of a secure world and gain comfort and confidence in being "out there" on their own.

Instill a Secure Self in Your Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 04.14.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

A secure self emerges initially from the appropriate love you give your children. Your love provides them with the knowledge that there are people in their lives who can and will protect them when necessary. The secure self also evolves from the sense of competence they gain from skills.

Resolution 2014: Looking Into Your Own Heart

Luann Robinson Hull | Posted 03.24.2014 | Women
Luann Robinson Hull

What of just loving for the pure joy of loving without any expectation or attachment to how it's all going to work out? Is such an intention counterintuitive to our human nature?

3 Ways to Raise Secure Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 03.24.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Secure attachment develops in children who learn that they can rely their parents to meet their physical and emotional needs.

Secure Attachment: Do Good Teachers Need It?

Lisa Niver Rajna | Posted 01.23.2014 | Education
Lisa Niver Rajna

While I do not want to add any more items to teachers ever growing pile of things to do, the goals of increased self-confidence and independent learning are valuable for students and teachers. Perhaps if we focused on the really important items, teachers would have less busy work to do and could accomplish the most treasured tasks.

Evolution of the 'Social Brain' in Humans: What Are the Benefits and Costs of Belonging to a Social Species?

Pascal Vrticka | Posted 11.16.2013 | Science
Pascal Vrticka

Because the human brain has become so large and sophisticated in terms of the social computations it supports, it takes a very long time for it to develop fully.

Can Narcissists Change?

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 11.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

As a therapist, I've seen firsthand that changing relational patterns often transforms even the most inflexible "trait" into something softer, gentler -- not a fixed feature, but a protection that eventually yields to touch and intimacy in all the ways one would hope.

Is Your Attachment Style Hurting Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

By becoming aware of your attachment style, both you and your partner can challenge the insecurities and fears supported by your age-old working models and develop new styles of attachment for sustaining a satisfying, loving relationship.

5 Early Warning Signs You're With A Narcissist

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 07.30.2013 | Women
Dr. Craig Malkin

The most glaring problems are easy to spot -- but if you get too hung up on the obvious traits, you can easily miss the subtle (and often more common) features that allow a narcissist to sneak into your life and wreak havoc.

Release Stress by Releasing Attachments

Debbie Gisonni | Posted 07.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Debbie Gisonni

We tend to accumulate a lot of stuff in life. We come into the world as infants with no baggage -- emotionally or physically. As time goes on, people, things and situations come into our life, and our natural inclination is to attach ourselves to all of it, whether or not it continues to serve us.

The Tale of the Gold Earring

Dr. Debbie Magids | Posted 07.13.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Debbie Magids

I am someone who attaches easily and strongly, never gives up, and pushes through many obstacles, even if I tire or get scared or hurt. Perseverance comes naturally to me. Letting go does not. And herein lies where I've gotten my biggest life lesson.

What Yoga Taught Me About The Present Moment

James Brown | Posted 07.10.2013 | Healthy Living
James Brown

By letting go of harmful desire, I got more of the physical depth that I'd wanted before, yet the shapes of the poses barely mattered now. What did matter was how good it felt to just be with what is and let go of what isn't.

No Etiquette for Saying Goodbye

Ruth Neubauer | Posted 06.29.2013 | Fifty
Ruth Neubauer

In middle age, we might have the mistaken notion that we'll be better at breaking up, more mature about it, able to face it and do it well.

Are You the Parent You Want to Be?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.07.2013 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

We all have something that triggers us as parents, be it defiance, tantrums, nagging, or whining. When we are triggered, we may not react to our kids appropriately. However, we often don't realize how much how we are reacting in the present has to do with feelings from our past.

Did You Ditch Your Resolution Already? Don't Fret!

Dr. Michael Finkelstein | Posted 04.03.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Michael Finkelstein

Pursuing a more authentic resolution is ultimately not only going to get results, but those results will last and not come crashing down as so often happens with typical resolutions like weight loss, giving up chocolate, working out every day, etc.

Non-Attachment As A Spiritual Goal

Margaret Placentra Johnston | Posted 02.10.2013 | Religion
Margaret Placentra Johnston

The spiritual literature tells us that an attitude of non-attachment is a goal in spiritual development, or an endpoint on the road to enlightenment. What does this mean?

Is Empathy Sexy?

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 02.09.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

Are we more excited by people who seem to care about us? Can being a good, caring listener feed the flames of desire? Research offers some clues to the answer.

Not Trying to Get Your Way May Make You Happier

Amy M. FitzPatrick, MS, L.Ac. | Posted 01.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Amy M. FitzPatrick, MS, L.Ac.

We want to plan. We want to control. We want to be ready and look our best and come out on top. But controlling for what is coming is no guarantee you are going to make the most of what comes -- in fact, it's probably going to hinder our ability to get the most out of it.

The ‘Witness State’: One Way To See Life's Bigger Picture

Levi Ben-Shmuel | Posted 01.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Levi Ben-Shmuel

The opportunity in connecting to the witness state while being present in your body is to understand that we do not have to be trapped in the drama associated with how we relate to our bodies and to life.

5 Strategies To Cling Less And Love More

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 12.01.2012 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Clinging is different from healthy desire, where we have wholesome values, aims, purposes, aspiration, and commitments -- without being attached to the results.

WATCH: Emotional Attachment: Good Or Bad? From Dr. Sue Johnson

Posted 08.21.2013 | MarloThomas

Is it bad to be emotionally dependent on your partner? Recently, relationship expert Dr. Sue Johnson visited me on Mondays With Marlo, and we talked a...

Are You Holding A Grudge?

Rod Stryker | Posted 09.23.2012 | Healthy Living
Rod Stryker

Despite all that we might have heard about the value of "letting go" or non-attachment, we have all, at times, found that it's difficult to actually do it. Even when holding on is painful, oftentimes we do it anyway.