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Attachment

How Can We Find Hope When Our Children Are Suffering?

Allison Carmen | Posted 11.18.2014 | Parents
Allison Carmen

I am attached to my children. My desire for my children to be well, happy and peaceful will not waiver. I felt the strength of this commitment especially last summer, when my oldest daughter sustained a head injury.

Release Attachments and Finally Become Free!

Erin Cox | Posted 10.24.2014 | Divorce
Erin Cox

Attachment is a basic human emotion. Think of the way a newborn becomes attached to her mother and those who love, feed, and care for her while she is...

Wheelchair Wisdom: Guideposts to Mastery

Linda Noble Topf | Posted 11.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Noble Topf

Attachment is the great fabricator of illusions; reality can be attained only by someone who is detached. Simone Weil As I wrote here last month, o...

Life Lessons From Burning Man

Francesca Hogi | Posted 11.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Francesca Hogi

I don't plan to start burning my possessions or deconstructing my very home anytime soon. However, I do plan to practice the art of releasing my attachments when the time has come to move on.

Is Online Video Gaming a Haven for the Insecure?

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 10.04.2014 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

What this research yielded challenges to a significant extent the popular belief that "excessive" online gaming is psychologically harmful, or that "gamers" lack social skills. What they found was that social skills were not predictive of devoting more time to online gaming.

How We Use Social Networking, Part 4: Are You Socially Anxious or Avoidant?

Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D. | Posted 09.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Joseph Nowinski, Ph.D.

Psychologists have long been interested in the concept of attachment, which has its origins in childhood experiences, primarily with those who raise u...

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

Tibetan Buddhist Teachings on Death and Impermanence

Judith Johnson | Posted 07.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

While I am not a Buddhist, I find the Tibetan Buddhist teachings on death a source of great wisdom and potential liberation -- particularly for thos...

Resilience: How Adapting to Stress Can Make Us Better Parents

Nancy Rappaport | Posted 07.19.2014 | Parents
Nancy Rappaport

I'm going to tell you something that is hard to believe. Psychologists can predict what kind of parents we'll be by how we talk about childhood.

A Spirituality That Embraces Feelings and Desires

John Amodeo, PhD | Posted 07.08.2014 | Healthy Living
John Amodeo, PhD

Inquiring into what we're experiencing creates a climate for intimacy with ourselves and others. Spirituality is about being open and available. It's about connecting with the vibrant life that exists beyond our limited sense of self.

What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Outlook On Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

What if we could identify the filter that shapes our perception of the world and change it so as to have a better life?

Is Your Technology Use Hurting Your Kids?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.06.2014 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

The usage of smart phones has overwhelmed the population, with people barely able to make it through dinner without texting, tweeting or surfing online. The problem is that checking in on Facebook often means checking out of whatever interaction you might have with the person sitting right across the table.

7 Strategies for Dealing With the Narcissist You Love

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

If you've tried a more loving approach to sharing what hurts in your relationship, and the narcissist in your life still won't soften, you truly have done everything you can.

Be Here Now: Where Does Your Mind Go When Things Appear to Be Going Wrong?

Dennis Merritt Jones | Posted 05.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Dennis Merritt Jones

I had caught myself red-handed, not practicing what I preach, and it was a delicious moment to be reminded of where my true peace and power lie -- within, not on the 405 freeway only when the conditions are just as I think they "should be."

When Love Is a Battlefield

Mindy Utay | Posted 04.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Mindy Utay

A spouse that has gone through attachment trauma needs a strong relationship more than ever. Avoid allowing a trauma to tear your marriage apart. Seek help from a professional and begin working towards a stronger relationship for both of you.

Allow Your Children to Create a Secure World

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 04.27.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Early experiences in which your children feel safe to discover the world beyond you enables them to develop the sense of a secure world and gain comfort and confidence in being "out there" on their own.

Instill a Secure Self in Your Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 04.14.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

A secure self emerges initially from the appropriate love you give your children. Your love provides them with the knowledge that there are people in their lives who can and will protect them when necessary. The secure self also evolves from the sense of competence they gain from skills.

Resolution 2014: Looking Into Your Own Heart

Luann Robinson Hull | Posted 03.24.2014 | Women
Luann Robinson Hull

What of just loving for the pure joy of loving without any expectation or attachment to how it's all going to work out? Is such an intention counterintuitive to our human nature?

3 Ways to Raise Secure Children

Dr. Jim Taylor | Posted 03.24.2014 | Parents
Dr. Jim Taylor

Secure attachment develops in children who learn that they can rely their parents to meet their physical and emotional needs.

Secure Attachment: Do Good Teachers Need It?

Lisa Ellen Niver | Posted 01.23.2014 | Education
Lisa Ellen Niver

While I do not want to add any more items to teachers ever growing pile of things to do, the goals of increased self-confidence and independent learning are valuable for students and teachers. Perhaps if we focused on the really important items, teachers would have less busy work to do and could accomplish the most treasured tasks.

Evolution of the 'Social Brain' in Humans: What Are the Benefits and Costs of Belonging to a Social Species?

Pascal Vrticka | Posted 11.16.2013 | Science
Pascal Vrticka

Because the human brain has become so large and sophisticated in terms of the social computations it supports, it takes a very long time for it to develop fully.

Can Narcissists Change?

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 11.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Dr. Craig Malkin

As a therapist, I've seen firsthand that changing relational patterns often transforms even the most inflexible "trait" into something softer, gentler -- not a fixed feature, but a protection that eventually yields to touch and intimacy in all the ways one would hope.

Is Your Attachment Style Hurting Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

By becoming aware of your attachment style, both you and your partner can challenge the insecurities and fears supported by your age-old working models and develop new styles of attachment for sustaining a satisfying, loving relationship.

5 Early Warning Signs You're With A Narcissist

Dr. Craig Malkin | Posted 07.30.2013 | Women
Dr. Craig Malkin

The most glaring problems are easy to spot -- but if you get too hung up on the obvious traits, you can easily miss the subtle (and often more common) features that allow a narcissist to sneak into your life and wreak havoc.

Release Stress by Releasing Attachments

Debbie Gisonni | Posted 07.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Debbie Gisonni

We tend to accumulate a lot of stuff in life. We come into the world as infants with no baggage -- emotionally or physically. As time goes on, people, things and situations come into our life, and our natural inclination is to attach ourselves to all of it, whether or not it continues to serve us.