I watched nine people die this year. Nine people who weren't news stories or dots connected by degrees of separation. Nine people who weren't just friends of friends of friends. They were people I loved.
When dating and living apart, there's a safe place to retreat to during times of stress. When living together, though, things that were once a non-issue are now front and center and the basics of living are now under scrutiny as compatibility is further tested by the new living arrangement.
Rather than thinking about a response, try to understand what they're going through at an emotional level. For example, if a friend tells you about losing a job, think about their situation and how it might impact them, not how you would feel if you were in their situation.
I'm getting a ton of email and messages through the social media channels asking me to pre-order or buy their book. Many times I don't know who these people are and I'm often annoyed by these pesky messages.
I met Mike Goldberg the first day of law school at the University of Virginia in September, 1969. By virtue of the alphabet, the F's and G's were separated into a small section for one of our subjects.
When Vivienne Harr, Chief Inspiration Officer at Stand, was eight years old, she saw a photo of two boys, her age, from Nepal living in modern-day slavery. She said: "Compassion is not compassion without action."
While the vast majority of the messages I receive from readers are not of this venomous variety, most aren't pure expressions of admiration or gratitude either. At first glance, they may appear to be fan letters, but they aren't -- because they're not from fans.
This quandary is a tough situation as you're trying simultaneously to protect your hard work, maintain your job, and not upset the person who oversees your work. Knowing though how to strike a balance among honesty, diplomacy, and directness is crucial in dealing with this issue.
Next time you feel stressed, will you let it get the best of you or will you focus on what you can actually control? Take charge by stepping back and reaching into your bag of stress-busting tips. Your life will be better!
For the majority of unarmed black folks who everyday fear for their lives, despite them doing nothing wrong, my advice to you is stop leaving the house unarmed. Arm yourself with knowledge of the system, civics and politics
Actually give it a rest. Make a decision on Friday evening to turn off your work mode. Imagine you're stepping out of the work version of you and into the lighthearted weekend version of yourself. Be okay relaxing, guilt-free.