Like many diseases, maternal guilt doesn't provide a warning sign, discriminate or decrease its number of visits based on merit or any other measure of performance. It may weigh on your shoulders during an evening out or jab you in the side at the office.
But as I stand in the kitchen, ordering pizza for dinner and watching them watch a character on TV named Bernice scream obscenities at people as she tows their cars, I wonder if my "not enough" has slipped even more. Maybe I'm not even close to enough.
While the particulars were different, one thread was the same: each of these women, who were quickly labeled "bad mothers," turned out instead to be reminders of the burdens and obstacles faced by so many mothers.