Only you know what path you need to take toward healing, and whether you accomplish this using every one of the five stages, shunning books about grief or never missing a session of your bereavement group, the key will consistently be to listen to yourself.
We always waited until Christmas Eve to get our tree. My father liked being in a strong bargaining position, knowing that whatever the tree salesman couldn't unload would be worthless to him the next day.
If a solidly Democratic bill were to pass under the balance of negotiating advantage would shift. So why does everyone write as if reconciliation were an alternative to ordinary legislation rather than a prelude?