I'm am not the first to say that a man needs to be responsible for how he looks at women. I am not the first to say that, regardless of how a woman dresses, she should be treated with dignity and respect. Many women have said exactly what I said. They say it and get labeled as shrill.
We all know the allure of a dangling, ripe piece of forbidden fruit, so we set out to explore what happens when you place a woman who is outwardly unavailable (in full bachelorette regalia) into a kingdom of sexual pursuit (a bar late at night) that's flooded with lustful, drunken singles.
Men are simultaneously expected to be pioneering, perfectly-groomed alpha males who, with their bare hands, will chop down a tree and make it into a bed in which they give their partners multiple orgasms, all while perfectly roasting a free-range chicken for dinner.
Research suggests that men who do more everyday chores actually report less sex per month then those who do less typically female jobs. Should husband's everywhere take off their aprons and have a beer while their wives stop off at the grocery store on the way home from work?
As I heard Ryan Gosling's character utter these words for the first time, I had an instant flashback to the hundreds of times in my life I have heard women say to their female friends, "Well, he's nice. And he has a good job. I guess go out with him again." One year later, cue the wedding bells.
Venker has 1) implied that young men are pathetic, 2) flat-out stated that they don't want to compete with women and 3) suggested that, if not corralled, all men want is sex and meaningless relationships without responsibility. If that isn't offensive to men, what is?
According to the scientists behind the study, the result is due not to intentional marginalization, but to "subconscious cultural influences." Are we supposed to be relieved that this discrimination isn't deliberate?
I live in a refrigerator. Actually, I live in a house with five men -- four of them are my grown sons and one is my husband. They are hot. They are big, strapping men. They need air conditioning -- and they need it blowing hard.