If needing to be right is my operating principal, then fear of all the judgments, opinions, and negative facts about being wrong come along with it.

After a moment of desperation, I laughed out loud. Hopeless! The list is getting longer, not shorter. Do I really have to do everything I think I have to do? And my inner wisdom whispered, "No."

To maintain your personal transformation, remember that what you focus on is what you get. Mindfulness means keeping your mind on positive thoughts and actions and pulling it back when it wanders off course.

In all my many years of coaching people, I've never met anyone without a "monkey mind" -- the little voice that runs a commentary on what's wrong with us and why we can't get what we want and need.

Few would say that personal transformation is easy. Or as our friend Lew Epstein put it -- "It's simple, but not easy."

We seem to spend more time arguing with each other, trying to prove our position, than we do trying to understand what the other person may be saying and how it might work.

"...I am on my own journey/battle with forgiveness...and I find it very difficult. I feel as if I have reached a standstill. ...perhaps there is a d...