Adapting to a culture means doing so in a way that allows us to be who we are, learning from others while also sharing the best of ourselves. The problem happens when we don't just try to fit into the culture, but we try to fit into a specific mold in a way that is not true to who we are.
As long as we live, it is never too late to be ourselves and to make peace with our choices and the people in our life (past or present). So, if you want to live and die really well, befriend, honor, and love yourself madly and deeply.
I remember looking in the mirror with the same quiet discontentment, like I didn't measure up. Girls who look at themselves that way tend to limit themselves. I didn't want any girl of mine growing up with a poor self-image.
So in the end, I'm glad I decided to stop concealing. It's all right to feel off and not be yourself and ask for the love to make yourself feel better. You shouldn't be ashamed of having problems. Tell people. Let them know. They can help you.
What I'm seeing in my youngest son is both sad and predictable: His growing consciousness of social rules is turning into a growing self-consciousness, and I wish I could stop it. I know I can't, but at least maybe I can give them some tools to help.
When you're "owning it," it means that you're totally and completely at peace with who you are in every moment, interaction and experience. You make no apologies for being awkward, nervous, excited, loud, soft spoken or other... you're just you.
How many of us have traveled the path away from ourselves to successfully return only once tragedy or crisis has struck? How much time have the dreams and passions you were born with spent on a shelf, untouched and gathering dust?
In this week's vlog I share my thoughts on how we can play BIG in our lives starting NOW. We can no longer dance around the perimeter of the person we want to be, we must dive in deeply and completely.
The circumstances of Ida's coming gave me the great gift of honestly looking at myself, present tense, and asking, "what are you interested in?" Because apparently what I was good at, or what I wanted in the past didn't matter as much as I thought.
I now understand that we mirror each other back and forth. All issues others may have with me or my opinions are about them. I'm mirroring something unbalanced in them, and the brighter my light shines the stronger I will mirror them back. How it all feels in me? That's my stuff to handle.
It is no secret that cancer in its acuteness pierced me into open living, and I've been working ever since to sanctify that open living without crisis as its trigger. But can this be done without crisis pushing us off the ledge?
It's taken me 30 of my 49 years to realize that not being who I am is more deadly, and it has taken the last 19 years to try to make a practice of this. What this means, in a daily way, is that I have to be conscientious about being truthful and resist the urge to accommodate my truth away.