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4 Signs That You Should Go To Therapy

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 04.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

I recently had a friend who was feeling stuck reach out to me to ask if she should start seeing a therapist. After our call, I thought that it would be useful to share some of these ideas with others who are considering "the talking cure."

Why Long-Distance Relationships Never, Ever Work (Except When They Do)

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 04.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Long-distance relationships often masquerade as real relationships. They can be passionate, intense, and loving. But what they can't be is battle-tested.

The 6-Letter Word for LOVE (And the Only One That Matters)

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 03.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Whether you are "hooking up," breaking up, enthralled, betrothed, honeymooning, straying, mourning, or just "status quo-ing," take some time to think about how you want to express your love and how you want love to be expressed to you. The choices you make can make all the difference.

The 3 Ways Martin Luther King Jr. Saved Your Soul

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 03.17.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

I would argue that in many ways, this is King's greatest legacy. His courage to proceed in a mission that, by any rational calculation would have been doomed to fail, is a lesson for all of us to learn. Without hope, without faith that there can be a better future, there will not be one.

The 9 Best Books for Meaningful Change

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 02.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Like it or not, we are all always changing and adapting to circumstances as time rolls on. The positive thing about change is that with some effort we can help direct some (though not all) of the change in our lives as opposed to being victimized by it.

The Blessing of Blessing

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.25.2014 | Religion
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Whether or not you choose to pray before meals, or faith is central to your life, or you believe in God, I encourage you to take the time to pause, even for just a moment, to recognize the good fortune that you do have in this world.

What Do You Do When Death Is a Relief?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Death is a complicated subject and something that we all must come to terms with in our own ways. There is no "right way" to grieve. Instead there are different approaches to making sense of loss.

The 4 Letter Word That Leads You Astray

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

In order to endure the pain you must be able to sit with it, not avoid it. No one wants to be in pain, but remember that pain can also be a lesson, an opportunity to learn, grown and change.

Meditation, Purpose and the Happiness Police

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 11.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Having purpose means to connecting with and working for something larger than yourself. It is about seeing and merging with the sacred that exists in the mundane -- exploring and knowing our individual consciousness to understand what truly matters to us.

If Everybody Likes You, You Are Doing It Wrong

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 06.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

If about 85 percent of the people you meet like you, you are probably doing something right. In contrast, if much more than 85 percent of the people you meet like you, you are probably doing too much to get along.

From The Now You To The New You: A Guide For Transformation

Posted 01.05.2013 | Healthy Living

The stress and strain of constantly being connected can sometimes take your life -- and your well-being -- off course. GPS For The Soul can help you f...

5 Quick and Easy Tips for Change in 2013

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 03.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Change doesn't just happen; we have to make it happen. And the first hurdle to change is inertia. So, how do you get past this? Easy.

The Christmas Presents They Will Never Get

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 02.22.2013 | Politics
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Let us do something different this time. Let us craft a plan that reduces, not increases, the numbers of guns in our schools. Let us open a discussion about better awareness of, and less fear and stigma of, mental illness, so that we don't isolate individuals who have the potential for this kind of violence.

Be In The Present By Learning From (But Not Dwelling On) Your Past

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

"Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it." This well-worn expression seems, at first, to make sense. I mean how can you grow and develop as a person if you don't learn from your mistakes?

Why Do We Cheat?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 11.27.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

The "cheating epidemic" is upon us. And it is everywhere. From our high schools, to our most hallowed institutions, to our venerable newspapers, to our best-selling authors. Cheaters are omnipresent. Quick -- cover your answers!

3 Signs You're A Creative Soul

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 10.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Having the authority to open your mind in a designated area gives you both the freedom to imagine and the boundaries of knowing that whatever you dream up or create does not need to be subjected to the rules of reason that govern the rest of the world.

The 4-Letter Word That Will Change Your Life

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 09.26.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

How does something that is so vital at one point in life suddenly become considered irrelevant at another?

What Can A Toddler Teach You About Getting A New Job?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 09.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

I started thinking about this during brunch this past weekend when my friend Heidi talked to me about the trials and tribulations of trying to potty-train her 3-year-old son.

Good Risks vs. Bad Risks

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 08.10.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Most people don't even think that there is another type of risk, but there is: Good risk involves listening to yourself, hearing and connecting with the part of you that is begging for expression but is being silenced because of a fear of rejection, embarrassment, or failure.

Are You Trading Now For Then?

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 07.04.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

The anxiety of indecision and indecision of anxiety is far more cumbersome to your spirit than the process of revising, reworking, and rebuilding.

Want To Change Your Life? Don't Get Involved, Get Committed

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 06.20.2012 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

Feelings and thoughts are not changed quickly, and anyone that tells you differently is a huckster. Lasting and meaningful personal change is not like having your oil changed at JiffyLube, as much as we might want it to be.