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#Bereavement

He Is My Son -- Not My 'Baby'

Jennifer Ross | Posted 10.30.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Ross

If I knew someone who had suffered the loss of their teenage child, I would never say, "I'm sorry for the loss of your teenager." What a terrible thing to say, right? I, in no way, want to sound like I did not appreciate the love that other people gave me, but I do want to educate on the respectful way to speak to a parent after they suffer the loss of a very young child.

'I Know Just How You Feel... My Goldfish Died' -- Really?!

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 10.29.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

"I know how you feel. My goldfish died, and we had to flush it down the toilet." Really? To this day, Owen recalls overhearing another student make t...

My Strong Reaction To Joan Lunden's Bald People Magazine Cover Isn't What You Might Think

Karri-Leigh P. Mastrangelo | Posted 10.08.2014 | Women
Karri-Leigh P. Mastrangelo

When I see that photo of Joan, the newer one, I am filled with hope for her. I am filled with a hope that those battling cancer get to live the rest of their lives, happy and healthy, in honor of those who didn't. In honor of my Dad.

When Grief Calls Forth the Healing

Mary Rockefeller Morgan | Posted 10.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Mary Rockefeller Morgan

The severing of a love relationship through death fractures the foundation of the bereaved. Our culture's common belief that one must rapidly get up and move on after such a loss results in denying death and repressing grief.

Heartwarming Wedding Video Filmed by Deceased Bride

Ariane Fisher | Posted 09.27.2014 | Weddings
Ariane Fisher

While we are involved with thousands of weddings per year at WeddingMix, it's still not unusual for me to make a personal connection with the brides. ...

On Being a Remainder

Robert D. Stolorow | Posted 11.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert D. Stolorow

The experience of being a remainder is central to bereavement. A person left behind by the death of a loved one is often called the survivor, but remainder better captures the emotional experience.

The War on Grief

Robert D. Stolorow | Posted 10.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert D. Stolorow

The DSM-5, the most recent version of psychiatry's diagnostic bible, makes it possible to classify grieving that endures beyond a rather brief span of...

My Son Died So I Could Live -- But His Legacy Continues To Bloom

Jennifer Ross | Posted 10.25.2014 | Parents
Jennifer Ross

Deep down in the depths of my soul, I knew that his purpose in life is being fulfilled. This isn't a fact that is easily accepted. My soul knows something that my earthly body continually fights.

Review Essay on "Levels of Life" by Julian Barnes

Robert D. Stolorow | Posted 10.21.2014 | Books
Robert D. Stolorow

The friend who gave me the book knew that I had been investigating and writing about the phenomenology of traumatic loss since the death of my late wife in February of 1991 shattered my world.

We Are at War, America

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 10.12.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

I wrote this several months ago. Seems quite fitting to post it now in light of the passing of Robin Williams: We are at war America. We are fighting...

Aging Boomers: Is 50 Really the New 30?

Meryl Ain, Ed.D. | Posted 10.08.2014 | Fifty
Meryl Ain, Ed.D.

How do we venerate age? How do we talk about death, dying, and grief? How do we comfort the bereaved? How do we honor the memories and legacies of loved ones?

The Reward Is In The Risk: Dating A Risk Taker When You're Widowed

Abigail Carter | Posted 10.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Abigail Carter

From Arron, his death and now from Jim, I have learned so much about living life. Doing things that scare you, saying "yes" as much as possible, being exhausted in a good way. From Jim, I have learned that some risks are fun and have adventuresome outcomes and some are not worth taking. The trick is knowing the difference.

Don't Label My Late Child a Hero

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 09.27.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

But I remain guarded about the reckless use of the "h" word when it comes to cancer. Natasha was kind, compassionate and gracious, but over time she did not bear her disease with astonishing bravery.

Losing a Pet and How to Keep its Presence Alive in the Home

Sybil Adelman Sage | Posted 09.22.2014 | HuffPost Home
Sybil Adelman Sage

I'm not surprised to read that pets have become extremely important to young singles, who find that a dog or cat is less stressful than being with a lover (though in defense of humans, an animal, no matter how devoted, will never pick up the cleaning).

Tips for Coping With Traumatic Loss: Non-Profit Assisting Bereaved Military Families Shares Advice

Bonnie Carroll | Posted 09.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Bonnie Carroll

Coping with the death of a loved one is never easy, but a sudden and traumatic loss can raise special concerns for the family members and friends left behind. These deaths are unexpected and survivors must grapple with the knowledge that their loved ones experienced trauma.

The Edge of Grief: A Summer Reflection

Ellen Frankel | Posted 09.20.2014 | Religion
Ellen Frankel

As a bereavement counselor, it is my job to help create a safe space to give voice to the unspeakable, and to companion others in their grief journey as they travel into the wilderness of their soul in search of their own inner knowing and truth.

'Til Death Do Us Not Part: 5 Ways to Stay Connected to Your Deceased Spouse

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 09.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

You will likely always long for their physical presence, but recognizing that you still have a relationship is one way to soothe the sorrow. Staying connected fortifies you so that you can engage with life, connect to the living, and make meaning out of your loss.

Cry for Sanity

Robi Damelin | Posted 09.09.2014 | World
Robi Damelin

How is it possible for us to allow for a whole nation of Israeli and Palestinian children living in the south of Israel and Gaza to be in a state of permanent fear? What sort of adults will they become? We have a responsibility for their future and for the trauma that they suffer.

Grief and Faith

Pamela Brill | Posted 09.01.2014 | Parents
Pamela Brill

Whether it's God or Nature or a Spirit of the Universe -- it carries broken mothers and wraps them in an ethereal shawl. Like a mother wraps her children and keeps them warm.

Don't Be Afraid to Tackle the Mental Health Issues Associated With Grief

The Rev. Sue Wintz | Posted 08.20.2014 | Healthy Living
The Rev. Sue Wintz

There are times when grief's accompanying depression, anxiety, emotional and spiritual distress becomes too difficult for the bereaved person to bear. That's when the right resources need to be activated.

Meet The Bereaved Parents Doing Amazing Things In The Face Of Unfathomable Loss

The Huffington Post | Catherine Pearson | Posted 06.11.2014 | Impact

For parents, there is no greater fear than the death of a child. This devastating loss raises difficult questions about how to cope and how to pro...

How To Find Peace On Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Around

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.09.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or completely alone. You see, by the time Father's Day 2001 arrived, I had been widowed for all of five months. As if that were not enough, my own father died two weeks prior to Father's Day.

Why So Many People Go Sideways When Death Visits A Family

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 08.02.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

There is another arena where 'armchair quarterbacks' also exist -- except this time, those who sit in the metaphorical armchairs have the ability and occasionally, the actual desire to wreak havoc, cause pain and outright destroy relationships.

Why Some People View Widows As 'Threats'

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.19.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Immediately after Mike's passing, the demeanor of this once warm and welcoming woman flipped 180 degrees.

Who Needs to Learn the Lessons Of Grief?

Megan Devine | Posted 07.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

There might be lessons here, about trusting your own heart, leaning into the places you are deeply broken. There might be places to explore, ways to find out if any of your deep self remains, given what you have endured. So learn, yes. Study your own heart, yes.