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Bereavement

DSM-5 Writing Mistakes Will Cause Great Confusion

Allen Frances | Posted 06.11.2013 | Science
Allen Frances

We were told prior to its publication that DSM-5 would be a 'living document' subject to correction. It turns out that this correction needs to begin right now -- DSM-5 in its current form is unacceptably imprecise and cries out for an immediate and thorough re-editing.

Marking Father's Day When Dad Is No Longer Here

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.10.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Father's Day, 2001. A day that did not start out well. A day on which I had never felt more or so completely alone.

Final Salute: For Everyone Who Opened the Door

Marie Woolf | Posted 05.29.2013 | Books
Marie Woolf

Of the thousands of family members I worked with, what I found most surprising, and affecting, was their trust.

Grief and the DSM: A Brief Q&A

Kenneth J. Doka, M.Div., Ph.D. | Posted 05.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Kenneth J. Doka, M.Div., Ph.D.

In academic and clinical circles, there has long been a concern with differentiating between grief -- seen as a normal transitional experience -- and more complicated reactions to loss.

Teen Suicide and Contagion

Barbara Greenberg | Posted 05.29.2013 | Healthy Living
Barbara Greenberg

The idea of a teen committing suicide and of a young life being abbreviated is almost too painful to think about. A new study suggests that the phenomenom of "suicide contagion" is sadly alive and well among teens.

Grief Differs From Depression: Our Mental Health Guidelines Should Clarify, Not Distort

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 05.22.2013 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

By removing the "bereavement exclusion" from what had been considered the bible of the mental health world, the DSM's editors risk undermining bereavement as a universal, normal, if profoundly painful, experience.

How To Break The News Of A Parent's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Seldom will anything break your heart as easily as the sight of your child in unbelievable emotional pain... and what greater pain is there to a child than the tragic loss of a parent. Though it has been many years since his death, my daughter still experiences bouts of sadness because Daddy is not here anymore.

End Of The Season

Robert Julian | Posted 05.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Robert Julian

It has been seven weeks since the sudden death of Patrick, my partner of 23 years. You might say that I have stepped out for intermission. Maybe I could tell you that the production has been shut down, that the play will be rewritten for later debut in a more hospitable season.

The Faces That Launched A Thousand Tears

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.06.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I will come out and say it. I love my job. I really do. And I also realize just how lucky I am to feel that way. The fact is that every single day, I have the privilege of being in service to people in need.

We Never Got Along -- So Why Do I Miss Her So Much

Wendy Litner | Posted 05.02.2013 | Women
Wendy Litner

I grew up resenting my mother, wanting so much to sever the strings that had me dance against my will as she plucked at them, up and down, to audiences' delight. But now that she's gone, I find myself desperately searching for a substitute hand to move me about my life.

6 Things Never To Do On A First Date

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.29.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The only thing that a wonderful first date should lead to is a second date...not breakfast in bed the following morning.

5 Techniques To Help Grievers Shift Perspective

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 04.25.2013 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

Memories are like gold nuggets, nuggets with sharp edges that eventually wear smooth. During the first year or two of grief, memories may be painful, only highlighting the loved one's absence. However, over time, a shift begins to occur.

When's The 'Right' Time To Go Through Your Late Spouse's Things?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.22.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

The answer to the question of when you should begin the intensely personal part of your Healing Journey known as the 'go-through' is quite simple.

The Greatest Fear Shared By The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.15.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Most people in the world are afraid of dying, which is not exactly what you would call an irrational fear. However, many people are so afraid of dying that they do not even want to discuss death, which, uncomfortable as this discussion may be, is downright irresponsible.

5 Ways To Get Your Financial House In Order

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 06.08.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Although certainly not among the most enthralling subjects, dealing with financial fall-out after the loss of a spouse is undoubtedly among the most important. While almost everything else on a widowed's to-do list can wait, the importance of setting financial and legal transition into immediate motion cannot be overstated.

What Has Left Me Utterly And Completely Baffled

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.25.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I must have had a very confused look on my face when it happened. It was the same look that I have seen on our cat when she sees a talking parrot in the waiting room of the veterinarian's office.

Loving Again After Loss

Georgianna Donadio, MSc, Ph.D., D.C. | Posted 05.22.2013 | Divorce
Georgianna Donadio, MSc, Ph.D., D.C.

Losing love by breakup or death is one of the most profound and stressful things we as human beings can experience.

The One Thing You Should Never Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.18.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Although it may be tempting to do otherwise, do not choose to dwell on the unfairness of your widowhood. The unfairness is a given, however dwelling on the unfairness will not take you in the healing direction that you wish to travel.

Why It's Impossible To Fill Someone Else's Shoes

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.11.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I can think of a lot of things that need filling up at one time or another. Some of those things might include: A bank account, a gas tank, a martini glass. Now... do you know what definitely does not need 'filling'? Somebody else's shoes.

It's OK: 36 Things Widowers Can Do Without Guilt

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 05.04.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Sometimes all we need is for just one person who has walked the same path to quietly and gently say, "It really is OK..."

How I Overcame Grief After The Loss Of My Spouse

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.27.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Twelve years. An entire lifetime ago. Whether by plane, car, ship, train or other means, most of us have taken a long trip of one kind or another. While in the midst of traveling, our habit tends to be to constantly check the time or the mileage to determine how far we have to go until we get 'there,' wherever 'there' happens to be.

The Appalling Thought That Just Occurred To Me

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

A really appalling thought recently occurred to me. I would even go so far as to call it an epiphany.

Why One Grief Does Not Fit All

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.13.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

They were two men. I was wife to one and daughter to the other. They were two separate, distinct and unbearably difficult losses. I recognized and grieved those two losses as such. All grief is not the same.

7 Ways Get Through A Painful Loss

Posted 01.28.2013 | OWN

By Will Schwalbe The author of The End of Your Life Book Club explains what helped him endure the loss of a loved one -- in his case, his wise and ...

Is There A Right Way To Grieve?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.