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Bereavement

'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 04.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

Are You Grieving 'Right'? What's Right, What's 'Wrong'... And WTF?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 04.14.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

I have always taken great umbrage at anyone criticizing, questioning or opining on how the widowed handle their grief and their highly individual and intensely personal healing journeys. Unfortunately, there seems to be a lot of it going on.

Man Writes Beautiful Prayers After Wife's Death

Religion News Service | Michele Chabin | Posted 04.08.2014 | Religion

JERUSALEM (RNS) From a young age Alden Solovy spent part of every workday engaged in writing. A journalist and editor by profession, he also wrote poe...

The Myth of 'Closure' -- One Year After the Boston Marathon Bombings

John Tsilimparis | Posted 04.07.2014 | Healthy Living
John Tsilimparis

Whenever our sense of safety and security is shattered by these types of events, restoring that emotional stability is not a simple undertaking. The central nervous system needs time to reset and process the loss of that very same safety and security that was taken away.

3 Keys to Empowerment While Grieving

Elizabeth Berrien | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Elizabeth Berrien

To have loss is to be human. With each loss, we add on to our layers of experience. We always hold the ability to honor our losses with grace and dignity. There is nothing weak or small about this journey

The One Thing You Should Never Ever Say To The Widowed

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.31.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

As defined by virtually every dictionary in every language, "ex" means former. The death of a spouse or partner does not nullify a marriage or relationship -- that sort of nullification involves a divorce or a breakup. I assure you that when it comes to widowhood, no one left the marriage willingly

Something From Nothing: Getting Through My Grief

Karen M. Wyatt, M.D. | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Karen M. Wyatt, M.D.

Though Mom will never again be with me physically and I will never again open a present from her on a special holiday, I have received the most important gift she could ever give me: the ability to cherish what really matters in life, to find the hidden beauty in everything, to make something from nothing.

One Mother Challenges Five Common Myths About Death and Dying

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

I do not subscribe to death, per se. Rather, I believe in transition... the transition of souls.

As Life Ends -- Forever Begins

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 03.24.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

What happens when we pass? Where do our souls go when our bodies die? Is there life after "death?" Is our time here on Earth all there is? Allow me to...

I Didn't Know How To Live With My Father's Illness

Linda Varlese | Posted 03.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Varlese

Not a day goes by that I don't look for him in other people's faces. Not a day goes by that I don't grasp to hold the memories together. Not a day goes by that I don't try to hear his voice again so that I won't lose it. Not a day goes by that I don't try to question him for the answers to my doubts.

My Cup Runneth Over With Just Enough

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 03.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

While we do this deep dive and soul search, we also hold onto the love and support we receive, the wonderful and healing love and support of family, friends and community and, ultimately, the sweet love of our child. We learn that as we keep our hearts open, our hearts receive all of this love.

5 Things I Learned From Helping My Dad Die

Noah Michelson | Posted 03.10.2014 | Healthy Living
Noah Michelson

In honor of my dad, Robert Michelson, one of the most incredible men who ever spent a little time on this planet -- and in honor of the pain and grief and wonder conjured by death -- I am sharing five things that I learned while helping him die.

Grief Online: The Dos and Don'ts of Internet Etiquette

Dr. Candi K. Cann | Posted 03.05.2014 | Technology
Dr. Candi K. Cann

With so much of our socializing done virtually, it is no surprise that we are grieving and mourning the deaths of our loved ones online too. Here are a few Dos and Don'ts for grieving online.

Healthy Grieving

Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW | Posted 03.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW

When someone you love leaves the planet, you are no longer quite the same person. Wishing to return to your old self is an exercise in defeat. Instead, recognize that you are growing into a new self. This new self will integrate love, loss and change. Life is always about change and integration.

And Here I Thought My Miscarriages Would Make Me a Better Mom

MotherWoman | Posted 04.15.2014 | Parents
MotherWoman

By Lexi Walters Wright It is 3:18 a.m.. My newborn son Arlo snuffles in his crib, and in a comically small twin bed across the room from him, I sigh ...

The Loss of a Lifetime: When an Adult Brother or Sister Dies

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 02.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

What did it mean that there were no handbooks for me? That people asked me to be strong in the face of the biggest loss I'd ever experienced or imagined? At times I felt like I didn't deserve to feel so shattered, especially in the shadow of my parents' immense loss.

Journey to the Center of Your Grief

Deb Carlin Polhill | Posted 02.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Deb Carlin Polhill

We all experience loss. When faced with the loss of a loved one, we are faced with great challenge. The sheer shock and utter sadness we feel most cer...

9 Things Not To Say To A Bereaved Parent

Suzanne Leigh | Posted 02.21.2014 | Parents
Suzanne Leigh

You know better than to say something like, "He/she is in a better place" or "You're lucky you have other children," don't you? Here's a list of other well-meaning blunders reported by bereaved parents that have made us squirm.

I See Dead People

Lisa Goich-Andreadis | Posted 02.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Goich-Andreadis

The sea was rough that morning. As the ship was being tossed from side to side, the sound of the waves could be heard slapping against the ship's hu...

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

The Dauntingly Large Envelope I Received A Month After My Husband's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.15.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It was January, 2001; one month after my husband's death. I awakened one morning to an envelope sent by a dauntingly large law firm; something that no one needs to receive immediately after you have buried your beloved.

Who Is Really To 'Blame' For Your Spouse's Death?

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

It is a sad reality that after losing a spouse, many widowed are the victims of accusation, criticism and actual blame. Whether it comes from the outside (relatives, friends, acquaintances, etc.) or is instead self-imposed, there is a lot of unnecessary pain being inflicted on the widowed; the very people who are in desperate need of support, rather than spite.

6 Important Ways For The Widowed To Facilitate Healing

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.22.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Because those of us who either are or ever have been a part of Widowed World not only understand... we will never disappear.

How Can We Really Help Our Children With Loss?

Felice Shapiro | Posted 02.10.2014 | Fifty
Felice Shapiro

Wakes, funerals and shivas are traditions for family to receive friends so they can say goodbye. And when they are over, what remains is a profoundly quiet, difficult road with no road map.

8 Tips For Handling The Holiday Blues

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 02.08.2014 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Many who are in the midst of loss or life challenges at this time of year have questions about coping with the holidays. How do you handle the holidays; especially if you don't feel like handling them at all? Read on for answers and a few great holiday suggestions: