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Blame Game

The Parental Blame Game

David Lesser | Posted 08.12.2014 | Parents
David Lesser

When they were born, they were all potential. We couldn't do anything but start screwing them up from day one. So, when we see characteristics in our kids that are reflections of our best selves, it's a big check in the win column.

Enough of the Economic 'Blame Game': Colleges Must Take Responsibility for Enrollment

Dr. Robert L. Breuder | Posted 07.02.2014 | College
Dr. Robert L. Breuder

It is my belief that community colleges are the answer to the labor crisis in this country. Colleges that don't make tough decisions are in fact contributing to this country's economic crisis as their students enthusiastically walk across the stage in their cap and gown only to eventually become a jobless statistic.

Enlightened Parents Learn from Both the Successes and Failures of Others

Mark Baer | Posted 03.29.2014 | Divorce
Mark Baer

From my perspective, enlightened parents are those who are willing to learn from both the successes and failures of others. Contrary to the wishes of the children interviewed in SPLIT, we cannot go back in time and undo the mistakes that we made.

Time Out!

Atiba Madyun | Posted 01.23.2014 | Politics
Atiba Madyun

Politics has become a childish blame game. Right now led by Republicans pointing fingers at everyone but yourselves, in the U.S. Congress. So We The People want you to go to the Time Out corner.

Boehner Hammers Last Nail in Republican Coffin

Chris Weigant | Posted 11.30.2013 | Politics
Chris Weigant

They ought to just change the name, really. Leave it as just the "Democrats" versus the "Tea Partiers" -- because the Republican Party of yore is nothing more than a corpse waiting for burial, at this point. John Boehner, in fact, just hammered the last nail in its coffin.

Are You Certain That Your Divorce Is All Your Spouse's Fault?

Mark Baer | Posted 07.22.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

If you can think of even one positive thing that ever occurred from blaming others, please continue doing so. We can't change others, but we can change the way in which we act and react. Maybe people would benefit from accepting responsibility, instead of blaming others.

What's the Difference Between Praise and Blame?

Doug Binzak | Posted 02.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Doug Binzak

Situations of being blamed or hearing negative things about oneself are obviously challenging to the ego. And in waking up that beast, they present more subtle challenges to the development of our ultimate human potential.

The Next President Needs to Lead

William B. Bradshaw | Posted 01.07.2013 | Politics
William B. Bradshaw

I am of the strong belief that the President of the United States, the most powerful and supposedly influential person in the world, needs, first off, to stay in Washington long enough to devise and implement a workable plan to bring political gridlock in Washington to a permanent death.

Soul-Talk: Are You Perpetuating Your Own Troubles?

Russell Bishop | Posted 12.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Russell Bishop

The moment you accept responsibility for your reactions to anything that is happening around you, you have no way back. The moment you recognize that you are the one choosing your reactions, the blame and complain game ceases to have power over you.

Handling The Fall

Rev. Eleanor Harrison Bregman | Posted 09.18.2012 | Religion
Rev. Eleanor Harrison Bregman

I am a terrible blamer. I came face to face with this today, after I dropped my three kids off on the camp bus near our house and took off on an early morning bike ride in Central Park.

How to Get Over Getting Screwed

Tiphani N. Montgomery | Posted 06.18.2012 | Healthy Living
Tiphani N. Montgomery

Somewhere down the line people came to the conclusion that we were entitled to a great life. Like we're owed it somehow. But the reality is that there is only one person responsible for how the cards fall, and that person is you.

Why Blaming Feels Good

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 06.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Rather than judge ourselves for blaming -- which most of us do at times -- why not look at what the blaming is covering up and learn to lovingly manage the feelings that we are covering up and avoiding with blaming?

Changing the Blame Game

Dr. Fran Cohen Praver | Posted 05.02.2012 | Healthy Living
Dr. Fran Cohen Praver

A common problem that married couples encounter is what I call the "blame game." By the blame game, I am referring to fights in which each spouse insists on being right and that the other is wrong.

Why Do You Blame?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 04.09.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

Why do we blame ourselves and others? What is the payoff?

How To Strategically Place Blame (To Reduce Your Own Anxiety)

Ben Michaelis, Ph.D. | Posted 11.27.2011 | Healthy Living
Ben Michaelis, Ph.D.

If you can be flexible in how you assign responsibility for the rain that falls your life, you can ride the storm out with confidence and prepare for the next bright day.

Stop Playing The Blame Game

Ken McLeod | Posted 10.06.2011 | Healthy Living
Ken McLeod

Your ideas about what is going on in another person are stories in your world of experience. The stories you are telling yourself are not facts. They are your stories.

Michael McAuliff

Mitch McConnell Offers New Strategy: Blame Obama

HuffingtonPost.com | Michael McAuliff | Posted 09.13.2011 | Politics

WASHINGTON -- In a bad sign for the stalled debt talks, Senate Minority Leader Mitch McConnell (R-Ky.) ratcheted up the rhetoric in the ongoing blame ...

Drop the Case

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 08.23.2011 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Think of someone you feel wronged by: can you find a case against that person in your mind? What's it feel like to go into that case? What does it cost you? And others?

Stop Blaming Yourself for Your Life

Hale Dwoskin | Posted 08.20.2011 | Healthy Living
Hale Dwoskin

"You are responsible for your life." At one time or another, you've probably heard this. And although it's true on many levels, it doesn't tell the whole story.

Divorce, One Year Later

Monah Li | Posted 08.15.2011 | Divorce
Monah Li

When somebody asked me how I was, I would answer by telling how he was, whatever exciting project he was working on, his health, his problems and his triumphs.

John Legend, Do Not Help the Accountability Hawks Drive Music From the Classroom

John Thompson | Posted 05.25.2011 | Education
John Thompson

Mr. Legend, yes we can close the achievement gap, but we can not do so by driving "Yes We Can" and other music from our poor schools.

Obama's Blame Game: It's Not About Turning Out Voters, It's About Protecting Himself

Jane Hamsher | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Jane Hamsher

There is no internal consistency to the narrative that the "professional left" is suppressing turnout by criticizing Obama, but Obama is not suppressing turnout when he scolds the voters who aren't clapping loudly enough for his achievements.

The Blame Game

Adam Neiman | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Adam Neiman

I don't blame the "professional left" or Robert Gibbs or Obama or even Rahm Emmanuel. I blame me. I was one of the last pragmatic progressives that swung from Hillary to Obama.

McChrystal's Revenge: Everyone Hates Karl Eikenberry

Josh Mull | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Josh Mull

I am the Afghanistan Blogging Fellow for The Seminal and Brave New Foundation. You can read my work on The Seminal or at Rethink Afghanistan. The view...

Afghanistan: What Happens When Our Allies 'Do More'

Josh Mull | Posted 05.25.2011 | World
Josh Mull

The military is well aware that it's failing big time in Afghanistan. So rather than admitting our COIN strategy is a flaming wreck, look for the blame to fall on our allies.