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Trance of 'Unreal Other'

Tara Brach | Posted 08.03.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

The truth is: Without a genuine willingness to let in the suffering of others, our spiritual practice remains empty.

Reaching Out for Compassion

Tara Brach | Posted 06.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her. Marian's daughter Chri...

Decide on Love

Tara Brach | Posted 06.02.2014 | Healthy Living
Tara Brach

Jeff was convinced he'd fallen out of love with his wife, Arlene, and that nothing could salvage their 26-year marriage. He wanted relief from the opp...

Admit Fault and Move On

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 06.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

We might think that admitting fault is weak or that it lets the other person off the hook for his or her faults. But actually, it takes a strong person to admit fault and it puts us in a stronger position with others.

'Mistakes Were Made'

Shira Hirschman Weiss | Posted 08.12.2012 | Healthy Living
Shira Hirschman Weiss

While it is extremely difficult to admit when we make mistakes, honesty and humility are what make for a sincere apology.

Why You Should Take A Closer Look at Who You're Dating

Marnie Nir | Posted 07.23.2012 | Women
Marnie Nir

The moment I deeply got that I was the source for all the yuck (and all the great) in my life as opposed to pointing the finger at others was the moment I got I could do something about it.

Living In The Observation As A Daily Practice

Mary Mackenzie | Posted 07.11.2012 | Healthy Living
Mary Mackenzie

If it's true that "everything someone does or says is an attempt to meet a need," what needs do judgment and blame serve?

Avoid These 6 Mistakes At Your Next Job Interview

Second Act | Posted 12.09.2011 | Fifty

Chances are, you are woefully unprepared for that upcoming interview and you don't even know it. Talking points rehearsed? Check. Company and intervie...

Drop the Case

Rick Hanson, Ph.D. | Posted 08.23.2011 | Healthy Living
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.

Think of someone you feel wronged by: can you find a case against that person in your mind? What's it feel like to go into that case? What does it cost you? And others?

Letting Go Of Blame

Mike Robbins | Posted 04.18.2012 | Home
Mike Robbins

Letting go of blame allows us to be free, to take back our power and to avoid the trap of thinking that someone or something else has the ability to dictate our experience of life. Whether our life is "wonderful" or "difficult" is always up to us.

Are You A Winner Or A Whiner?

Russell Bishop | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Russell Bishop

Choosing to whine and blame is a choice just as much as choosing to do something about your circumstances, but one is more likely to produce a meaningful result than the other.