You could kind of say that by being in this band, I'm married to two men. I have to trust them implicitly or this project simply will not work. The three of us fight and have our moments of not getting our way... we huff and we puff but in the end, we collectively decide what is best for our project and THAT'S what we end up doing.

I once met a man who said he wanted desperately to be a songwriter but "unfortunately, I have a family in Oklahoma to support so it is NEVER going to happen." He said it with such bitterness that I felt so sad for that family. Don't people know that if there's something you want to do with your life, there's no reason you can't find a way to do it on some level?

I moved to Nashville in 1992 and stood in line at the famous Bluebird Café to sing one verse and chorus of a song for a panel of judges. If it goes well, you are asked to come back to play three songs several months later. The results would come in a letter a few weeks later.

I remember my first recording session in Nashville. I had written an uptempo song that I thought was a smash. As I was directing the band, the piano player/band leader said, "You know, this is really a ballad." I was stunned. And I was too intimidated to speak up for myself.