I valued being independent but hated the thought that my options were to either let my relationship define me (from my grandmother's generation) or be so tough I only attracted a man who followed me around like a lost puppy (the wounded feminine from my mother's generation).
The truth is no emotion surfaces from something outside of us -- it can only come up if it is already within us. People, places and situations don't make us feel anything; we choose to feel through our perceptions and through our conditioned filters.
Only you know, deep inside of you, the path and the way that is best for you. When you do the above, you will have such clear and consistent access to your truth you'll never need to ask anyone else what to do or where to go next.
Look at revolutionaries like Oprah and Steve Jobs -- folks who consistently mention "intuition" as part of their process. I believe we can all thrive in our businesses and in our lives if we make intuition our CEO.
It's not that the mind is bad. It's a powerful tool to use for planning, sorting details and taking action steps. But it is not the sole place you or I are meant to live from. There is a deeper place that we can inhabit on a more regular basis.