As said in many 12-step recovery programs: "You can't give away what you don't have." This is true for any teacher, mentor, or healer. It is important that you honor your own self so you can share what you love as your most vibrant, glowing, full and radiant self.
Children of divorce can grow up to be good partners and mothers and fathers. It doesn't necessarily come naturally. It may take extra time, attention and focus. But going about making successful family relationships is a skill that can be learned.
I needed to create a trail on this guy. Just in case he did it to someone else, the police would have a record of it. And maybe the next target would be helped. Could be helped. Because they've done it before, and will do it again.
Today's new reality includes more and more people having multiple jobs and wanting to create additional streams of income. I want to share with you the seven changes that I have implemented in my own life in order to avoid burnout.
Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.
You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.
We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"
Creating boundaries, picking priorities, and knowing what's working and what isn't -- will help you feel confident that your accomplishments are enough, even if you have more goals you want to achieve.
When we consider the Incarnation this Advent, let's remember the valuing of humanity over ideology. And, perhaps in a fresh way, let's receive the permission we need to live healthier, safer, more truly human lives.
We can't control anything or anyone outside of ourselves. We can only control how we react or how we respond to what is going on outside of ourselves. So when something happens, we can either contract or expand. It's a choice.
Our families are where we first learn how to say "No" in a safe, supportive environment. If we don't learn to do so there, we won't learn to do so anywhere. If our children can't say "No" to us, they won't say it to anyone.
I felt a tremendous pressure to meet all of my child's needs, and was afraid of creating some sort of mysterious anxiety down the road if I didn't. Now that my second child is going through the emotional ups and downs of toddlerhood, I have a different perspective.