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Boundaries

The Six Mysteries of Grinding We May Never Understand

Unwritten | Posted 04.17.2014 | College
Unwritten

Being a normal college kid that likes to go to bars and parties, I'm pretty well versed in grinding culture. But there are still some things that I fundamentally don't understand about it.

'Shouldn't You Be Over That by Now?' How to Respond to Judgment on Your Grieving Process

Megan Devine | Posted 04.15.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

Sometimes it just makes it easier on you, easier on your heart and mind, if you simply stop trying to explain. Refusing to explain or defend your grief doesn't mean you let other people go on and on about it, continually telling you how you should live.

Beautiful Savage: The Man Issue Launches for Spring

Rai Mensah | Posted 04.04.2014 | Style
Rai Mensah

What does it take to push past the standard parameters of beauty and social norms? Who do you enlist to help you with such a bold and unconventiona...

How Much Do You Value Your Freedom?

Jo Warwick | Posted 03.25.2014 | Women
Jo Warwick

With each surrender of your attention, energy and time accepting other people's expectations, regulations and perceptions without question or resistance, you're slowly building a prison for yourself.

Have You Heard You're Not Alone in Your Grief? It Isn't Really True

Megan Devine | Posted 04.05.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

You alone carry the knowledge of how your grief lives in you. You alone know all the filaments of life and of love that fly through you. You alone know how deeply your life is now changed. You alone have to face this, inside your own heart.

What Happened to Our Primary Agreements?

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 04.01.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We often have several "primary agreements" in our intimate relationships. We agree to take care of each other, as well as to be nice, to protect and not to hurt each other. "I've got your back! I wont hurt you, and I wont let any one else hurt you! You're safe with me!"

How To Set Limits For Kids Without Harshness, Fear Or Shame

Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW | Posted 03.24.2014 | Parents
Sarah MacLaughlin, LSW

Kids need boundaries and limits to feel safe. But setting and enforcing them is tricky, especially if you are trying to avoid coercion, threats and bribes.

Is the Tail Wagging the Dog?

Sherrie Campbell, PhD | Posted 03.19.2014 | Parents
Sherrie Campbell, PhD

Children, especially teenagers can be incredibly dramatic. The one thing we must do as parents is not buy in to the drama.

5 Easy Steps for Creating Balance in Your Life

MaryEllen Tribby | Posted 03.12.2014 | Healthy Living
MaryEllen Tribby

Creating boundaries, picking priorities, and knowing what's working and what isn't -- will help you feel confident that your accomplishments are enough, even if you have more goals you want to achieve.

Incarnational Boundaries

Zach J. Hoag | Posted 02.17.2014 | Religion
Zach J. Hoag

When we consider the Incarnation this Advent, let's remember the valuing of humanity over ideology. And, perhaps in a fresh way, let's receive the permission we need to live healthier, safer, more truly human lives.

Jealousy

Robert C. Jameson | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Robert C. Jameson

We can't control anything or anyone outside of ourselves. We can only control how we react or how we respond to what is going on outside of ourselves. So when something happens, we can either contract or expand. It's a choice.

What It Really Means To Take Care Of Yourself

Tammy Plunkett | Posted 01.25.2014 | Healthy Living
Tammy Plunkett

Start your day with love. When you wake up, and certainly before you start making your mental to-do list, ground yourself in love. Remind yourself of your worthiness before you even get out of bed.

The Reason Every Kid Should Talk Back to Their Parents

Kelly M. Flanagan | Posted 11.10.2013 | Parents
Kelly M. Flanagan

Our families are where we first learn how to say "No" in a safe, supportive environment. If we don't learn to do so there, we won't learn to do so anywhere. If our children can't say "No" to us, they won't say it to anyone.

Snowden Didn't Take Away Our Privacy, But We Can Still Reclaim It

Gloria Yu | Posted 12.29.2013 | Politics
Gloria Yu

In light of the fact that our behavior fails to align with our purported principles, we are compelled to reassess the value of privacy to American life and what we can do if we hope to reclaim it.

What Aren't You Saying?

Ashley Turner | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Ashley Turner

Like anything, the "disease to please" and the resulting sugarcoated life is a habit. Break this habit by simply telling the truth. First to yourself, then to others.

Do You Have Healthy Boundaries?

Mike Robbins | Posted 11.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Mike Robbins

The cleaner and healthier we are with our boundaries, the more power and freedom we'll have in our lives, our relationships, our work and all the things that are most important to us.

Why Some People Have No Boundaries Online

Adam Grant | Posted 09.11.2013 | Media
Adam Grant

We're often shocked by what people post online. What shapes why some people seem to have no filter in social media, whereas others are more selective and private -- and what should your strategy be?

Why I'm Learning to Ignore My Kids

Caitlin Fisch | Posted 11.05.2013 | Parents
Caitlin Fisch

I felt a tremendous pressure to meet all of my child's needs, and was afraid of creating some sort of mysterious anxiety down the road if I didn't. Now that my second child is going through the emotional ups and downs of toddlerhood, I have a different perspective.

Why Creating Boundaries Is the Key to Healthy Living

Nitika Chopra | Posted 10.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Nitika Chopra

Lately, every time I have a conversation with someone the topic of boundaries comes up. Most of the time it is because people feel they don't know ho...

Stop Enabling--Five Ways Saying No Equals Success

Tom Lowery | Posted 10.20.2013 | Business
Tom Lowery

The worst part of never saying no is that our projects never come to fruition in a way we want them to. And that stinks. Lately there's been lots of arguing and debating about goals, success and leadership, much of it revolving around setting boundaries for ourselves and others.

Agapi Stassinopoulos: Are You Feeling Depleted? Discovering Your Boundaries

Agapi Stassinopoulos | Posted 09.14.2013 | Healthy Living
Agapi Stassinopoulos

There is a delicate balance between self-care and care for others. We want to be there for others, but if we are doing it to the detriment of our own wellbeing, we are doing a great disservice to who we are.

Border Defense for Personal Development

Bradley Foster | Posted 09.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Bradley Foster

Takers can't take anything from us unless we give it to them. Having good boundaries is a balance of our needs and beliefs and what we can do to support the other person. We are authentic and genuine when we are in harmony with ourselves and the other's boundaries.

How Are You Teaching People to Treat You? 5 Steps to Help You Get It Right

Sophia A. Nelson | Posted 08.19.2013 | Healthy Living
Sophia A. Nelson

If you find yourself unhappy with how you are being treated, if you feel you are always being taken for granted, used, misused, or even abused by some of the people in your life, it's time for you to do a self-check.

8 Great Ways To Carve Out 'Me Time'

Nancy Sherr | Posted 05.14.2013 | Fifty
Nancy Sherr

The conundrum: how best to squeeze time in for you? Meaningful time, that is. Coffee with a friend, a movie, dare we engage in the idea of a girl's night out? Will this constant cacophony ever quiet to a mild roar? Is it me, or is it all just moving too fast?

Are a Lack of Boundaries Turning Our Children into Criminals?

Ashley Ryan | Posted 04.07.2013 | Parents
Ashley Ryan

If we use punishment, this is the kind of communication our children will get used to, and, in turn, learn. Punishment sets an example of fear, aggression and pay back.