I have been thinking about what creates shady or untoward people, and how we can teach children different ways of being. In my reflections, I started to think about where I learned about character, and realized that it was through little lessons along the way.
My son is competitive, and he is certainly touchier than my daughter when it comes to criticism. He's identical to me. I wonder if the fight for his name is the source of his ambition. It certainly had something to do with mine.
Kids need to suffer. At least a little. That's how innocent and vulnerable children evolve into durable, resilient adults.