There's no consensus on what to say. Cancer makes people uncomfortable. Some people get nervous. Others are presumptuous. Some are naive. Here are some examples of the most egregious comments that have actually been said to me at one point or another.
Obviously there's nothing funny about cancer or its various treatments. But I felt that my options were either laugh at most of it or just crawl under my covers into the fetal position and stay there. Thankfully humor won out most of the time.
It's always a horrendous experience when you are told you are going to lose a body part. I unfortunately know way too many people who have had this happen during cancer treatment. But there's a little extra slap in the face when reproductive parts are in the equation.
After dealing with cancer for a few months now, I'm realizing that Hollywood may have -- are you ready for this? -- sensationalized what it's like to have cancer. Also, Julia Roberts is potentially deadly.