When an older family member needs help, many people struggle to find the time to provide assistance to their relative amidst the many other commitments crowding their lives. Often, it is hard to figure out just how much help is really necessary.

A task so simple, mundane -- and essential -- as making a bed for someone who cannot do it themselves strikes me as a great lens through which to view caring for others.

Don't push yourself too far or beat yourself up for not living up to "how things used to be." If you remain positive and adaptable, this season can still be full of celebrations to cherish. Here are six things to keep in mind if visiting someone with Alzheimer's or dementia in the coming weeks.