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Caretaking

From Robin Williams to My Father, Understanding Lewy Body Dementia

Kuntal Joisher | Posted 12.17.2014 | Impact
Kuntal Joisher

However, LBD is not a rare disease. The second most common form of dementia, it affects an estimated 1.4 million individuals and their families in the United States, and millions more across the world.

Until Death Do Us Part? Not Really

Vicki Larson | Posted 11.24.2014 | Divorce
Vicki Larson

Here's how we imagine marriage will be: We stand before the people who matter to us and we vow to love, honor and cherish our beloved "until death do us part." Except, many of us have replaced "until death do us part" with "for as long as our love shall last."

Are You Addicted to Caretaking?

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 08.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

I had been caretaking for so long that it was habitual and addictive. However, once I realized that it was controlling rather than loving, I became determined to heal this addiction. I'm happy to say that loving myself and sharing my love with others is what I do most of the time now, and it brings me great joy!

Real Leaders Have Empathy, Compassion and Acceptance and They're Not Afraid to Show It

Ann Fry | Posted 08.09.2014 | Business
Ann Fry

In my past few articles, I've been writing about amazing CEOs who have a commitment to healthy workplaces and who are working with the American Cancer Society as CEO's Against Cancer. I'm continuing that today, with my next installment.

A Bittersweet Father's Day Gift

Luise Meyer | Posted 07.27.2014 | Fifty
Luise Meyer

My heart chronically arches for my dad, for all the things I can't do to make it better for him, for when he can't remember my son or does not understand why I can't just stop by (we live in different countries).

The Art of Downsizing

Kate Cox | Posted 05.31.2014 | Fifty
Kate Cox

Our parents' bookshelves were portals into their lives as teacher and journalist, into their married life and later, their lives as separated people.

After Losing Son To Cancer, Mom Finds Joy She Never Thought Possible

Julie Guillot | Posted 05.26.2014 | Impact
Julie Guillot

We found our way into the mountains and, despite being outnumbered by two small children, I got them fully outfitted and into their lessons. Then I made a radical decision.

A Pain Unlike Any I've Ever Experienced

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 04.01.2014 | Fifty
Elizabeth Flora Ross

They gave us a list. To make preparing easier, it read. It included all the basics. Practical things: furniture, linens, toiletries, and clothing. Under each category there were specific items listed. We were pressed for time. Rushed.

Does Suffering Bring Us Closer to God?

Rea Nolan Martin | Posted 01.25.2014 | Religion
Rea Nolan Martin

I'm going to be brutally honest here. I know it's a popular theory that the means to God is through suffering, but I'm not a proponent. In fact, I'm not a believer in suffering as a means to anything, really, except pain.

What I Discovered About My Husband When I Lost My Breasts

Eva Moon | Posted 10.24.2013 | Women
Eva Moon

After my surgeries it was almost unbearable for him to see my scars. Not because of how they make me look -- that doesn't matter. But because to him they were visible proof that he'd failed, as a man, to protect his woman from harm.

Are You a Caretaker?

Peggy Nolan | Posted 08.06.2013 | Divorce
Peggy Nolan

I began to teach my children to take responsibility for their own lives, their own choices, and their own decisions. In teaching them I learned that what I had been doing nearly my entire adult life was "caretaking," which masquerades as being responsible.

New York City to Jacksonville and The Wizard of Oz : What Women Can Learn By Running Away From Home

April Rudin | Posted 06.20.2013 | Style
April Rudin

In The Wizard of Oz, Dorothy Gail taught us that "there is no place like home." However, it was only by first running away that she could truly va...

I Hope You Dance!

Myra Demeter | Posted 05.27.2013 | Fifty
Myra Demeter

For many who suffer a traumatic event the date of that event becomes the defining moment of their lives. That event and its aftermath have taken over and everything else is relegated to the rear -- life's priorities quickly rearranged themselves.

Which One Of My Sons Will Play The Role Of My Daughter?

Emily Cappo | Posted 05.11.2013 | Parents
Emily Cappo

I watched the woman at the airport security checkpoint as she silently counted my three sons with her eyes. I knew the question was coming.

AIDS Activism Has Always Meant Caring Across Generations

Jim Eigo | Posted 04.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Jim Eigo

How bitterly ironic it would be if the first generation of HIV-positive seniors, a generation that, through unprecedented community effort, has managed to survive the plague, should in their last years fall victim to a system that is utterly unprepared to care for them.

Why 60 Minutes With My Dad Felt Like Forever

Ronna Benjamin | Posted 04.16.2013 | Fifty
Ronna Benjamin

When my dad sees me, he gives me a big smile through chocolate-stained dentures. He's just finishing a cookie. There are crumbs on his lap and on the floor surrounding his wheelchair. His fingers are speckled with chocolate. He is thoroughly enjoying that cookie, and the mess doesn't bother him.

The Obama Inauguration, Immigration Reform, Poetry and the Cantor Twitch

Janet Mason | Posted 03.29.2013 | Politics
Janet Mason

Like many LGBT Americans, I was profoundly moved by President Obama's recognition of gays and lesbians in his inaugural speech.

Why Painful Things Happen to Good People

Gary Zukav | Posted 03.20.2013 | Impact
Gary Zukav

When you choose an intention that creates consequences for which you are willing to be responsible, that is a responsible choice. When the intention you choose is love, you create authentic power.

Love Doesn't Get Cancer

Judy Silk | Posted 02.26.2013 | Healthy Living
Judy Silk

That phrase broke through the heavy curtain of my grief. Don't go to the funeral today. It even let a little sunshine in. He was right. Unlike a sudden death, we have more time to live together. We have each day.

What the Hell Are You Doing Back in My Life?

Pete Dorogoff | Posted 12.22.2012 | Fifty
Pete Dorogoff

It's been 35 years since my parents were together as a couple. It's odd for me to even refer to my father and my mother in some plural reference. However, life happens and unfolds in baffling ways.

Losing a Parent... and How Empty Spiritual Teachings Make It Worse

Intent | Posted 09.17.2012 | Healthy Living
Intent

People don't get cancer because God wants to teach them a lesson. Children don't starve to death to learn about universal love. Life includes suffering, simple as that. Feel it, endure it, and hopefully -- when you finally stop trying to make sense of it -- it will pass.

'Why Are My Partners Always Needy?'

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. | Posted 05.08.2012 | Healthy Living
Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

A patient of mine realized that if he wanted to attract a loving and caring woman who took responsibility for herself, he would have to learn to be loving and caring toward himself.

My Mother's Unlikely Gift of Dementia

Sherri Edwards | Posted 02.01.2012 | Parents
Sherri Edwards

The most meaningful present my mother gave me wasn't the Mickey Mouse watch I wanted as a child. It was the gift of walking with her on the path of a progressive illness.

When It's Okay To Walk Away

Terrell Harris Dougan | Posted 12.10.2011 | Women
Terrell Harris Dougan

One of my most outstanding self-defeating patterns is the urge to fix everything for everybody.

Long-Term Health Care: Think, Plan While You're Healthy, Able

Glenn D. Braunstein, M.D. | Posted 11.12.2011 | Los Angeles
Glenn D. Braunstein, M.D.

Americans are notorious disease-and-death deniers. We cling to the fantasy that death will come only when we're age 100 and have earlier taken a brisk walk, read the WSJ and had a romp in the hay. It doesn't happen that way.