My greatest failure ended up becoming the best thing that ever happened to me. About one year into my time in the brig, I started learning about mindfulness meditation and immediately noticed an increase in happiness.
Whatever it is, you have two choices: Live with it and continue to be unhappy or take a good, serious look at yourself in the mirror. The key word here is mirror. We can't see our blemishes until we have a mirror to reflect them back at us.
Life is too short to spend your time being unhappy and adding to a long list of regrets. Put fear aside, really evaluate what you want out of life and how best to get it, and then go for it! You only get one go around, so why are you still at the starting gate?
It's incredibly important to be able to pinpoint the moments, people and experiences that trigger these feelings. Even if your whole life feels like it's in a funk, you have to start noticing more specific moments that cause that feeling in order to start making positive changes.
A decision to save $6.00 by buying a book online, multiplied by thousands of customers every day, means that your local bookstore -- the place where you meet friends, met your partner, or found the book that changed your life -- may not be there next year.
Just one focused, positive thought, in fact, can serve as our escape vehicle out of a rut. By simply concentrating on a painting we love, for example, we immediately can shift our mindset from misery to one of gratitude.
Having the authority to open your mind in a designated area gives you both the freedom to imagine and the boundaries of knowing that whatever you dream up or create does not need to be subjected to the rules of reason that govern the rest of the world.
Most people don't even think that there is another type of risk, but there is: Good risk involves listening to yourself, hearing and connecting with the part of you that is begging for expression but is being silenced because of a fear of rejection, embarrassment, or failure.
Can you travel back into your past and alter something that will change yourself in the present? And, could you travel into your future and also alter your present? It looks like it might be possible, and it's not science fiction.
Though this may be hard for some to accept, always be mindful that any point in life (whether judged to be good or bad) is perfection in itself. When the next phase comes, that is another aspect or level of perfection.
Feelings and thoughts are not changed quickly, and anyone that tells you differently is a huckster. Lasting and meaningful personal change is not like having your oil changed at JiffyLube, as much as we might want it to be.
Somewhere down the line people came to the conclusion that we were entitled to a great life. Like we're owed it somehow. But the reality is that there is only one person responsible for how the cards fall, and that person is you.
The bottom line is that no matter what our beliefs are, they are often based largely on interpretations handed to us by others. Sometimes those beliefs resonate with our own internal truth, and sometimes they don't. Regrettably, we often hold beliefs that we ourselves don't believe at our core.