We all have the same amount of time to figure out how to live the best kind of life for ourselves. If you are in a situation that you would like to change, start by thinking about what steps will get you to the place you want to be.
My children needed a more patient and focused mother. My husband needed a wife that was truly able to listen and connect. I needed to stop allowing endless distractions to keep me from my goals and what I so badly wanted to accomplish. But I just didn't know how to get there.
Let's just cut to the chase: without confidence, we're all doomed. Doomed to remain stuck in the here and now of what passes for our personal existence, blaming the haters and/or Congress for standing in our way. Let's be honest: the only person standing in our way is ourselves.
Seriously, if changing your life was easy, do you really think we'd have three-for-one happy hours, or that anyone would seriously care about Kate and Wills' baby? Please. They'd be fully engaged in their own exciting lives.
If I could offer my best tips for how to realize your dream (or anything for that matter) -- whether it is writing your memoir, shedding those 20 pounds, or living in a clutter-free home -- it would be these.
We're never done. There will never be a point at which I stop and say, "Okay, I'm good. No more changes or transformations for me." Ha! There is always a new experience to be had, something to learn, someone to push you and ways to grow.
With each option that comes to you, a vibration will emerge from within you. That is your true self bursting into life, and it is your best compass to feel whether the opportunity is right for you, beyond any rational analysis.
The good news is that you can take back control, no matter how fast your merry-go-round might be spinning. The better news is that you can start today. It begins, quite simply, with your choice, and just one small step.
My greatest failure ended up becoming the best thing that ever happened to me. About one year into my time in the brig, I started learning about mindfulness meditation and immediately noticed an increase in happiness.
It's incredibly important to be able to pinpoint the moments, people and experiences that trigger these feelings. Even if your whole life feels like it's in a funk, you have to start noticing more specific moments that cause that feeling in order to start making positive changes.
Change is like going on an expedition: It can be a trudge or a hike. Take it all in and enjoy the view, or focus on the faults -- it's absolutely a choice. Here are some lessons I've learned about encountering change, some by resisting it and some by jumping into it with two feet.
Whether it is a lighter load, a quieter mind, a better mood, a solution to a problem that you're chewing on, less attachment to outcomes, finding your soulmate or your mojo... here's my all-purpose recipe for reinvention.