Catching your spouse cheating can be extremely heartbreaking and infuriating at the same time. While it's easy to be paralyzed by all of the emotions that come with this discovery, this is a crucial time to make some important decisions.
Cheating was a set of choices I made to get things I wanted -- sex, ego strokes, flattery. I didn't consider your welfare. I was staggeringly selfish. I risked your health. I risked our children's home life. All because I wanted a bit of strange.
The key ingredient in any relationship is trust. Coupled with respect and love, trust gives you a strong basis as a couple. While trust is a bond, it is also a tenuous one, easily broken, if one of the partners constantly lies.
Sadly, many men don't realize the profound effects infidelity can have on the emotional life of a trusting long-term partner. Inevitably, most cheaters are eventually found out, and the resulting fallout is often much greater than anticipated by the cheater.
The lessons I learned regarding interpersonal relationships during my lifelong tenure in the adult entertainment industry have proven to help many suffering with miscommunication, misunderstandings or even infidelity within their relationships.