Once upon a time, were you one of those couples who agreed on everything? You know the ones -- the pair everyone was jealous of, because you seemed so perfectly matched? Chances are, once you had kids, you had a rude awakening.
If, as parents, we are not taking care of ourselves, but are taking care of everyone and everything else, we are teaching our children that love comes from the outside and/or only comes through "doing" for others.
Some things tend to drive me crazy. Sometimes it's a little thing, like hearing a woman threaten her child with what she seemed to think was the ultimate punishment: "If you don't stop that screaming right this minute, you're going to have to fly home commercial!"
Kids don't listen. Not every time. Not now and not when they're 16. Things will break. Noses. Fingers. Hearts. So how can I help him understand, help him make the right decisions when it really counts?
By the time your child is in school, I know you have heard the word "consistency" used in some kind of parenting advice. If you are consistent, kind and firm but clear, your child will be able to internalize good behavior.
They say that those who fight the hardest are those who are the most alike, so perhaps it shouldn't have surprised me that when it comes to parenting, the English and the French have quite a bit in common.
When we require our kids to say the obligatory words, "I'm sorry" without actually meaning them, we teach them that words alone can let them off the hook and they don't have to genuinely feel empathy for whoever they have wronged.
The reason the world has changed for kids is not because we don't parent like our grandparents did. To the contrary, the reason we don't parent like our grandparents did is because the world has changed.