"The most erotic thing a man can do for a woman is... the dishes." You've no doubt encountered this oft-repeated claim, or one like it, before. Yet, as always, reality is far more complex than the headlines.
Research suggests that men who do more everyday chores actually report less sex per month then those who do less typically female jobs. Should husband's everywhere take off their aprons and have a beer while their wives stop off at the grocery store on the way home from work?
I could never see myself in a little French maid's outfit, except on weekends while doing my household chores, and I don't suppose I'll ever wear one because: (a) I probably couldn't find something like that in my size and (b) I don't speak French.
In the dark of predawn I lay in bed, tucked snugly beneath my downy comforter, sleet pinging against the window panes in soft yet fitful waves. Against all odds associated with parenthood, no one under the age of 8 burst into the room to announce that the sky was falling.
My husband and I are not exchanging major gifts this year. There's nothing we need, so why waste our money? On the other hand, I do want Bob to know that I love him and care about him, and that I put thought and effort into making him happy.
What if we inadvertently train our spouses out of helping through our tiny reminders? Imagine you -- a grown woman who has been grocery shopping for 30 years -- are leaving for the grocery store and he is telling you, "Make sure you take the coupons. Do you have the list?"
Before you begin to argue over whose turn it is to do the dishes, take out the trash or scrub the toilets, it's a good idea to make a list and divide the chores in a way that's agreeable to both of you.
I can hear what you're thinking right now. Really, she's talking about dividing up chores? Yawn. But here is the thing. Household division of labor is one of the problems that causes the most stress in young marriages.