We preach that marriage fixes everything, from sexual infidelity to general moral decline in our culture. But it hasn't, and the way we teach about it, it won't.

The sexual tension that pervades even the simplest campus ministry meeting is a pungent and thick as smoke. I can't help but think that these problems wouldn't be problems if we were OK with casual mingling.

I assume that there are thousands of women like me out there. Women who woke up one day and found themselves in the middle of their worst nightmare. And who decided not to sit inside that nightmare. Women who are moving wearily but boldly back toward the light.

Christianity often forgets that our main man was a single, 30-something-year-old man. While his family was still a part of his life, his central support system was his friends and followers. So why is there such a large disconnect between single young adults and Mainline Protestantism?

The so-called "virginity movement" is not nor should it be equated with Christianity. To do so sells the Gospel short and leads to all sorts of false notions of where young women find their true worth and what young Christian men should prize in them.