If it's true that we put our money where our mouth is, then for many American couples, weddings aren't about the spirituality. In other words, the priority of our society -- when it comes to weddings, at least -- is on the material things, not the spiritual ones.
Here's one: You find yourself asking the clergy to take all the references to Jesus out of the service.
In 1987 we got married. My wife's name is Mary. I have since realized that priests may only get one or two Mary-and-Joseph combinations during a career. The local priest made the most of it.
We consider our union to be beautifully human -- in some places, strong, in other places, weak. But we are fully confident that our marriage is being perfected with each passing day.