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Circumstantial Infertility

Over 40, Single and Childless on Mother's Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 05.09.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I know what some of you may say: Have a baby on your own; adopt; foster. And a few of you may say: Sorry, lady, you should have thought of that earlier. You're just too old. But I want to be a mother.

I'm Single And Childless ... And I Know What You're Thinking

Melanie Notkin | Posted 02.13.2013 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I know what you're thinking. I can read it on your face... the distracted smile, the unconvincing nod, the slightly furrowed brow... You're trying to figure out what's wrong with me.

The Loss I'm Not Allowed to Grieve

Melanie Notkin | Posted 11.26.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

A generation ago, women who did not marry and/or have children by age 40 grieved and moved on. But today, with the advancement of assisted reproductive technology, women are no longer given permission to move on.

Childless So Far: Why I Choose Love Over Motherhood

Melanie Notkin | Posted 10.21.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

"You're going to hate me for saying this," says my good friend, a married mom of three, as we stand on the beach and look toward the ocean. "But you'r...

A Message for Moms: Up the Auntie

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.18.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I had always planned, expected, hoped and dreamed that I'd marry and have children, but I'm now in my early 40's and both milestones have eluded me.

The Single Reason Why We Don't Have It All

Melanie Notkin | Posted 08.26.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Singles who live alone move into homes with others for the weekend in the summer, staving off more than the concrete heat of the city. It's simply less lonely.

When You're Not a Mother on Mother's Day

Melanie Notkin | Posted 07.09.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

Babies are born from the womb. Maternity is born from the soul. There are many ways to mother.

What Not to Say to Single Women Who Long to Be Moms

Melanie Notkin | Posted 04.24.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

We all know that going through infertility treatments can be incredibly challenging for couples. But single women who yearn to be mothers go through their own heartache.

My Secret Grief

Melanie Notkin | Posted 03.13.2012 | Women
Melanie Notkin

The grief hit me in my mid-thirties without warning. By all appearances, my life was fantastic, but there were nights when I would cry for hours. I was in mourning, but I didn't know it.

The Invisible Infertility

Melanie Notkin | Posted 10.16.2011 | Women
Melanie Notkin

For women like me, we not only grieve the loss of motherhood, but we also grieve the loss of the dream, the dream of finding love and marriage resulting in that beautiful baby carriage.

The Truth About Childless Women

Melanie Notkin | Posted 09.10.2011 | Women
Melanie Notkin

I'm 42 and still single and I have come to acknowledge the truth: it's very possible I won't have children of my own.