Our full-time jobs require our presence at frequent early morning and late evening events, plus occasional weekends. All of our extended family lives a plane ride away, and paying for a nanny --- not in our budget! We get by by making significant sacrifices to our careers and our pocketbook.
For those of you that are divorced and who have to live with the reality of a bullying or hostile ex; one who refuses to love your children more than he hates you, brain retraining may be your way to freedom.
Once upon a time, were you one of those couples who agreed on everything? You know the ones -- the pair everyone was jealous of, because you seemed so perfectly matched? Chances are, once you had kids, you had a rude awakening.
Co-parenting with someone who you admittedly would rather not deal with can be challenging and exhausting. Avoid these seven deadly sins of co-parenting so that you can work through the conflict to successfully raise your children -- together.
If someone asked me what the hardest part of divorce was, I would say it was just after my ex moved out, and the nights my kids were at his house. I would go to bed and wake up in an eerily quiet house and I hated it so much. Coping with divorce in this regard isn't easy and it takes time.
It's important to look at the big picture in your divorce and focus on what is in the best interests of your children. When you get along as co-parents, your children will likely be happier given the difficult circumstances that they are already facing with the divorce.
Are you a divorced mom? Is your relationship with your ex more scary than merry? If so, the holidays can make for some extra rough sledding. And there's nothing quite like co-parenting with a grinchy ex to put you in a bah humbug state of mind.
You can't explain to a 10-year-old child that you can't call them because mommy went to court to prohibit it. While your anger may make you want to tell them, you know it is not in their best interests to possess that information.
Sure, you can claim to be unemotional, but if you resort to name calling or hanging up on your ex or refusing to respond to emails/texts, then you are clearly working on emotions rather than focusing on your shared vision for the children.
I don't want you to ever feel like you have to choose between your dad and me. We sit together at activities and have all eaten dinner together after basketball games -- not because we are all such good buddies, but because we all share something very important: our love for you both.
Do they love him more? Is he more fun? Would they rather be there than at my house? These were all questions running through my mind. I was angry at them, angry at my ex, and angry at the world. I was bitter and wished I wasn't divorced.
Since the amount of child support one is required to contribute is formulary and based on statutory guidelines, it stands to reason then that modification of child support would be requested when there is a "substantial change of circumstance."