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Are You Dealing With a Conflict Addict?

Valerie DeLoach | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Valerie DeLoach

If you are reading this and realizing that YOU are the one who is causing your divorce to be high conflict, then I beg you to focus on the kids.

Stop and Smell the Roses

Valerie DeLoach | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Valerie DeLoach

We need to try to be more like the children. When things start going well with your ex, don't just assume the worst.

What Makes a Mother 'Primary'?

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

I've been writing here about the experience of being the "other mother" for just about a month now. What is the "other mother"? How does the role develop, and where does it lead?

How To Deal When Your Ex Won't Cooperate

Betsy Ross, LICSW CGP | Posted 12.29.2013 | Divorce
Betsy Ross, LICSW CGP

It's upsetting to have an ex-spouse continue fighting with you after your marriage is done, particularly when the ex-spouse is your children's co-parent. Taking time to think about why this is happening and exploring the possibilities can yield helpful information and lead to new ideas about how to stop fighting and move yourself forward.

Letter to My Kids Re: Divorce

Valerie DeLoach | Posted 12.28.2013 | Divorce
Valerie DeLoach

I don't want you to ever feel like you have to choose between your dad and me. We sit together at activities and have all eaten dinner together after basketball games -- not because we are all such good buddies, but because we all share something very important: our love for you both.

Holiday Parenting Schedule: Make a List and Check It Twice

Nicole H. Sodoma | Posted 01.23.2014 | Divorce
Nicole H. Sodoma

If you feel it is too early to think about the holidays, consider this: Target and other big retail stores put out their holiday items approximately two months before each holiday. While most of us think this a bit premature, maybe they have it right.

Advance Planning Now Helps Sidestep Holiday Stress Later

Tara Fass | Posted 12.22.2013 | Divorce
Tara Fass

Winter holidays are among the most important to celebrate and with them come the greatest potential for emotional meltdown. Everyone wants their fair share of this hallowed time with the kids and others who are important.

3 Co-Parenting Tips for a New and Improved Attitude

Tara Fass | Posted 12.08.2013 | Divorce
Tara Fass

When dealing with joint custody each parent can be the dreaded finger pointer as well as the one the being pointed at. Stay mindful of the bigger picture, which is that every action you take, every mood you display, has an effect on your kids.

Why I Temporarily Moved Back In With My Ex-Husband

Magda Pecsenye | Posted 12.07.2013 | Divorce
Magda Pecsenye

He had the heart attack. And suddenly I was talking to his family, and living in his house, and keeping track of the kinds of personal details I hadn't thought about in relation to him in the almost-seven years since we'd split, almost-five since the divorce was final.

Three Moms, One Child and a New School Year

Colleen Logan, Ph.D. | Posted 12.03.2013 | Gay Voices
Colleen Logan, Ph.D.

This a story of a mother with two mothers who is raising children with another mother and an ex-partner mother. That's a heck of a lot of mothers! Combine these admittedly confusing family dynamics with the start of the school year and you've got a situation that's complicated at best.

You Should Forgive Your Ex -- What?!

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 11.18.2013 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

This past weekend was Yom Kippur, the Jewish holiday also known as the day of atonement. What that means to Jewish people is that this is our time to repent and ask God for forgiveness for our sins.

Should You Tell Your Kids Why You're Getting Divorced?

Posted 09.09.2013 | Divorce

Telling the kids you're getting a divorce is a conversation no parent wants to have. But once you do sit them down with your soon-to-be ex, how much s...

Can Taking a Timeout Save Your Marriage?

Lois Tarter | Posted 11.09.2013 | Divorce
Lois Tarter

Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones have decided to take some time apart. While a divorce could be in their future, they are apparently taking a moment to themselves to see if that is where they want to go.

How to Deal With Your Ex at Your Children's Special Events

Nancy Kay | Posted 11.06.2013 | Divorce
Nancy Kay

Does the very thought of seeing your ex at your child's special events make you so angry you'd rather make an appearance at traffic court?

Yom Kippur, Divorce, and Three Little Words: I Am Sorry

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 11.03.2013 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

On Yom Kippur, we are instructed to seek atonement from those we have wronged... those who we have intentionally or unintentionally transgressed... so that we are assured a blessing in the Book of Life.

15 Steps To A Better Split

Jackie Pilossoph | Posted 10.30.2013 | Divorce
Jackie Pilossoph

As we all know, dealing with an ex is no piece of cake. Things are constantly changing in both yours and your ex's life, and issues come up.

Co-Parent Checklist

Tara Fass | Posted 10.27.2013 | Divorce
Tara Fass

If you are dissatisfied with your child's "other parent," if you need to double down on the good will to keep up the steady effort it takes to make co-parenting work, then this blog is for you.

5 Ways To Avoid Fights With Your Ex About Co-Parenting

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 10.20.2013 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

I believe it's safe to say that most parents want what's best for their child. Recognize that you each have different priorities. Try to be respectful of those priorities and allow each other the ability to co-parent to the best of his/her abilities without instructions or demands from the other.

Why You Should Consider Dating A Single Dad

Posted 08.17.2013 | Divorce

By Monique Boyd for YourTango.com Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome walks up to you, smiles and introduces himself. You take one look at him and become e...

4 Co-Parenting Issues To Sort Out Before The School Year

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 10.12.2013 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

It seems so simple to say -- dare I say, "too simple," -- but the magical Parenting Plan provides all parents (biological and step parents) the specific terms and conditions under which they are to operate, so that there is no room for "innocent" confusion or misunderstanding.

Mayim Bialik Talks Life After Divorce

Posted 08.09.2013 | Divorce

"The Big Bang Theory" star Mayim Bialik spoke to ABC News Friday about how she and her sons, Miles and Fred, are adjusting to life after her divorce f...

Mistakes We Fear We'll Make During Divorce

Diane L. Danois, J.D. | Posted 10.08.2013 | Divorce
Diane L. Danois, J.D.

Almost anyone who has gone through the divorce process will rank it as the single-most challenging life-event. Without a doubt, divorce is difficult. Brutal.

6 Ways Co-Parents Can Make Back-To-School Season Less Stressful

Posted 08.07.2013 | Divorce

If there's ever a time to put aside your differences with your ex, it's during back-to-school season. The start of the school year is stressful enough...

Friends After Divorce

Lois Tarter | Posted 10.07.2013 | Divorce
Lois Tarter

When you are going through a divorce, you probably could never think of being friends with your ex. If you have children together, you need to both think about what's best for them.

The Power of Words

Mark Baer | Posted 10.05.2013 | Divorce
Mark Baer

Within the context of family law, the following terms have been found to negatively influence people's behavior: divorce, child custody, visitation, access, sole, and primary.