Let's remind ourselves of a simple fact: Joy is our birthright. Joy is not an externality. It's not something we can afford to dip into when time or bandwidth permit. It is a cornerstone of our power as influencers, visionaries and creative agents of change.
In 2011, my middle-school son came to me and said he wanted to attend a football summer camp at De La Salle. I asked what was De La Salle. I could see my son wanted to go with every ounce of his being. The school was an hour and a half drive from our house.
Some people are asking, "What kind of message is the NFL sending to women and girls about how they are valued in society?" We have another question: What kinds of messages are young boys receiving from the Ray Rice incident?
You should be your kid's biggest supporter. But for parents of high school athletes, in particular, it's important to maintain perspective. Don't lose sleep worrying about catering to every need of your athletic child.
I realize that among the many choices I have is choosing what I focus on and what perspective will serve me best. So instead of focusing on the burden of a fifth business trip to China, I will focus on the blessing of having paid work that makes a positive impact on others and makes me happy.
Early in your career this is all very stressful. Of course you want to succeed - but you're not always sure how. My advice is to be yourself (topic of another blog). But in the meantime, it often comes down to having a great boss.
In my experience, there are a hundred wrong ways to ask for feedback and one right way. Most of us know the wrong ways. We ask people, "What do you think of me?" "How do you feel about me?" "What do you hate about me?" or "What do you like about me?"
There. It was out. My fear. My uncertainty. My self-doubt. I put it all on the table, and almost instantly I felt a weight off my shoulders. My friend reminded me that I was exactly where I was supposed to be, and that being terrified was the best feeling in the world.
Who among us hasn't made critical remarks on the way home from a holiday party? At home, we thank our spouse for making dinner but quickly note that the meat was overcooked. And we've all observed the "I couldn't do it, but I insist my kid do it perfectly" parents.
Although coaching is now a widely accepted practice in the business world, the effectiveness of coaching interventions is rather variable. This depends not only on the type of method used and the competence of the coach, but also on certain psychological qualities pertaining to the client.
Performance appraisals may finally be a human resource system of the past. Tons of evidence and our guts tell us they are ineffective measures of performance. Often, the best performers do not get the highest performance scores.