When you decide to learn how to love yourself, you definitely need others to help you with this. We need others to reflect us back to ourselves so that we can see how we may be abandoning ourselves rather than loving ourselves.
Here is the story of a love addict named Jake and a codependent named Melissa. Like so many codependent/love addict relationships, they were oblivious to their psychological afflictions. They felt like "regular" people who just wanted the all-American dream of true love.
You know you desperately want to be released from the shackles of self-doubt, self-loathing and fear. You, and only you, can make the determination to walk down a new path in life that will certainly bring you to happiness, serenity and improved self-esteem.
I'm sitting in an old truck, hauling a refrigerator -- olive-green, a throwaway from someone's basement, a 30-year-old refrigerator in the back of a 20-year-old truck. I'm sitting next to Jan, who's driving; we've been dating for three months, and already we're moving appliances together.
There are many different ways to attain inner peace, tranquility and serenity. Practicing meditation, affirmations and breath work are a few good ones. However, sometimes hidden blockages exist that may prevent you from attaining that inner calm you seek.
Dear Steve, My husband and I have been together for 30 years. We have poor money management skills even though our combined income is about $105K we never seem to have enough money available to pay or living expenses in total each month.
How we experience the circumstances of our lives often determines whether or not we find them traumatizing. The presence of caring adults who help children to decode the ever-unfolding situations of their worlds is a great protective buffer for the child.
The truth is, there is no one who can give you that self love. It doesn't matter how many people adore you, or how skinny, successful, smart, talented, funny, kind, or compassionate you are. None of it matters if YOU don't see your wonderful self.
Self-responsible means taking responsibility for everything in your life, even those events or people that do not in any way seem to be your problem or responsibility. Often the people that most antagonize us are the ones we need most to teach us what we want to learn.
Popular culture has done us a great disservice in our understanding of romantic love. From a young age, we watch movies and read books that form the scripts of our adult relationships. But popular culture usually gets it wrong, and ends up confusing love with limerence.
If you are so attached to someone that you feel you can't live without that person, try learning to give to yourself and others what it is you want from this person. Your job is to become the person to yourself that you want the other person to be.
Well, here it comes...The Chinese Year of the Water Dragon. When you look up the symbolism of the water dragon it is described as a powerful creature. But it loses power if it jumps into a situation before carefully observing or researching the circumstances.
I am in a codependent relationship that is headed for heartbreak. My heartbreak, that is. See, this is one of the many things no one ever quite captures when they try to explain how a parent feels about a child.
We travel in part to be free of ourselves, the roles and responsibilities of home. Travel allows us to escape those self-constructed constraints of Who We Are and What Our Lives Are, and allows us to live more freely in the moment.
Until recently, "no" was a dirty word to me. As a stage-four people-pleaser, my vocabulary was rich with affirmatives: "sure," "okay," "absolutely," "no problem." But my mouth couldn't seem to form the word "no."