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Coming Out to Family

Lessons From Coming Out in 1976

Mark Olmsted | Posted 01.23.2014 | Gay Voices
Mark Olmsted

It rather astounds me that I was as self-affirming as I was at a time when the Stonewall riots were not yet seven years in the past and homosexuality was still unimaginably taboo, at least for my parents' generation.

On Having Faith, Watching Oprah, and Being Gay

Cassie Premo Steele | Posted 11.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Cassie Premo Steele

On the day after I realized I am a lesbian, I invited over the woman I was in love with (we hadn't been together in any sexual way; we had not even hugged or kissed) so that we could watch Oprah's Super Soul Sunday. The guest was Brené Brown, whose new book was about vulnerability.

The Gay Warrior

James Owens | Posted 11.18.2013 | Gay Voices
James Owens

Though we aren't fighting a traditional war, we are soldiers nonetheless, soldiers who, when called upon, will draw their sword to protect the younger ones from the hurt that they once endured, soldiers drafted into an army not by choice but by providence.

Everyone Knew I Was Gay, Except My Brother

Brian Douglas Kennedy | Posted 10.18.2013 | Gay Voices
Brian Douglas Kennedy

When I came out to the rest of my family in my early 20s, no one was shocked. The fact that I was gay shouldn't have been a surprise to my brother either. After all, we had adjacent bedrooms and my high school years were spent wearing out the soundtracks to Rent and Jesus Christ Superstar.

Unlikely Hero

Mark Hoelterhoff | Posted 09.02.2013 | Gay Voices
Mark Hoelterhoff

As a parent, every part of you, every fiber of your being, is designed to protect your children, keep them from pain, shield them from hurt, and never, ever inflict suffering on their precious hearts. It is that protective spirit that kept me in the closet for so long.

Coming Out to Family -- Six of Them, and All Mine

Judy Rickard | Posted 08.19.2013 | Gay Voices
Judy Rickard

I lost Mom to cancer in 1992. Dad lasted more than a decade without her and passed in 2003. I thought I wouldn't come out to family anymore after that, but life has a funny way of shaking you up.

WATCH: Adorable Animated Short Tells Cartoonist's Coming Out Story

The Huffington Post | Glennisha Morgan | Posted 05.10.2013 | Gay Voices

Have you ever tried coming out to a friend while you're hundreds of feet in the air and riding a roller coaster? Cartoonist Hamish Steele did and ...

My Second Coming Out

Tom Bartolomei | Posted 06.16.2013 | Gay Voices
Tom Bartolomei

When Vivian was first created, I think I was afraid of how my parents would react to the news that their son-in-law is a drag queen. For the seven years before Vivian, my relationship with my parents had been amazing, and I was afraid to lose that. Then the unthinkable happened.

A Father's Unexpected Response To His Gay Son's Coming Out

Levi A. Miles | Posted 06.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Levi A. Miles

When my dad left to pick up some dinner, my mom, whom I've been out to for almost two years, said, "Your father saw your Facebook status when I left my Facebook up. The cat's out of the bag." You see, I hadn't told him.

The Good, Bigoted People

Nico Lang | Posted 05.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Nico Lang

You don't hate by accident. You have to be taught to hate -- in little ways that are reinforced every day, ways you might not even recognize. In my case, hating yourself takes a lifetime.

Out-Of-The-Closet Reflections: One Year Later

Troy Roness | Posted 04.24.2013 | Gay Voices
Troy Roness

A year ago I thought that disclosing my sexuality would aid in the healing from my eating disorder and my compulsive exercising. However, looking back, I realize that I was looking at my sexuality all wrong.

A Mother’s Final Gift

Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D. | Posted 03.15.2013 | Gay Voices
Jon Derek Croteau, Ed.D.

At first I'd thought my mom died on my birthday to bring my father and me together. Since then I've realized that her gift was an opportunity to finally find the fortitude and the wisdom to do what she never could. So I left him behind. And that's where he remains: behind me.

Gay Voices Readers: When Did You First Realize You Weren't Straight?

Posted 12.02.2012 | Gay Voices

This week, blogger Allison Hope shared a great piece asking, "When Did You Know You Weren't Straight?" Her blog got some great reactions and the conv...

The Parent Crap: 10 Tips For Coming Out

Randy Neece | Posted 01.12.2013 | Gay Voices
Randy Neece

If you're heading home for Thanksgiving dinner with the family and thinking this might be the right time to come out to your parents, here are 10 tips to consider as you plan what to say.

Trapped Outside the Closet: Some Second Thoughts on Coming Out

DJ Louie XIV | Posted 12.19.2012 | Gay Voices
DJ Louie XIV

At the ripe old age of 17, being gay was fully how I defined my sexuality: I was a man who was only attracted to other men. In retrospect, it bothers me that at 17 I chose (or felt pressure) to set a boundary this concrete in my brain.

Coming Into Being Out

Jarrett Hill | Posted 12.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Jarrett Hill

Sitting in my car, in the dark of night, during a 15-minute break from work, I was at one of the lowest places in my life. Coming out had brought up so much more than being attracted to men, and now I couldn't stand the thought of feeling this horrible way another day.

Coming Out: Is It All About You?

Wade Davis, Jr. | Posted 12.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Wade Davis, Jr.

Though I can remember almost everything about that day, from my mother's facial expression to her subtle physical responses, only recently have I tried to understand her reactions and consider her feelings throughout my coming-out process.

Coming Out In Two Acts: One Man's Story Of Family, Love And Living Authentically

Michael J. Brewer | Posted 12.11.2012 | Gay Voices
Michael J. Brewer

It all started with an awkward conversation with my dad when I was 16. On what I thought was a day like any other, we were passing our neighborhood Walmart when my father began the line of questioning I'd been dreading since before I was positive I knew the answers.

The Extended Coming Out

Conor Gaughan | Posted 11.04.2012 | Gay Voices
Conor Gaughan

One reason I got so personal last month was because of a powerful statistic that will matter come Nov. 6: Straight people who know gay people are significantly more likely to support LGBT rights, by 20 points in one ABC News/Washington Post poll.

On Coming Out

Thomas Naples | Posted 10.09.2012 | Gay Voices
Thomas Naples

It makes me sad and frustrated that anyone needs to "come out" at all. However, I realize now that being "out" to family, friends, colleagues, professors, the Internet, etc. helps them get to know me and helps me be more comfortable with the way I am.

Acceptance

Justin McCoy | Posted 09.19.2012 | Gay Voices
Justin McCoy

Although I have accepted myself, I am still terrified of how others will accept me.

When It Doesn't Get Better

Lance Brister | Posted 05.12.2012 | Gay Voices
Lance Brister

When I came out as a teenager, my mother made it clear that she didn't want to hear about that part of my life. So I grew accustomed to changing pronouns and omitting big chunks of my history when I related it. Romances. Relationships. Heartbreaks. Friendships. Dreams.

An Unremarkable Holiday

Amelia | Posted 02.14.2012 | Gay Voices
Amelia

When people think about LGBT stories and the holidays, some imagine scenes of argument and strife or -- sometimes worse -- tension and polite-acting relatives. Well, this story isn't like that at all. This is the Christmas story of Ryan and Eddie.

Coming Home -- And Coming Out -- For The Holidays

Susan Stiffelman | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Susan Stiffelman

Family gatherings have the potential to nourish the soul or inflict the kind of psychological pain that can take months to heal. In other words, big holiday reunions are not for the faint of heart.

WATCH: New Youth-Oriented Video On Coming Out -- Cool Or Controversial?

Kergan Edwards-Stout | Posted 05.08.2013 | Gay Voices
Kergan Edwards-Stout

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