Communication Tips

Sexual Self-Empowerment: Ensuring Healthy Boundaries

Linda E. Savage | Posted 11.17.2009 | Living


Linda E. Savage

It may seem counterintuitive, but couples need clear individual boundaries and healthy differentiation for great sex. Each must feel both connected and protected.

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Disconnect the Reaction from the Person

Grande Lum | Posted 09.07.2009 | Living


Grande Lum

When you can distance yourself from your response, you separate the reaction from yourself.

How to be Your Own Mediator: Raise the Issue Swept Under the Rug

Grande Lum | Posted 09.01.2009 | Living


Grande Lum

Unlike a comedian who has to setup a punch line carefully and wait for the right beat, you can come back to an issue that happened hours, weeks and even years ago to work things out.

How To Be Your Own Mediator: Tell the Third Story

Grande Lum | Posted 08.13.2009 | Living


Grande Lum

In conflict, two people can view identity as a zero sum game. The more right you are; the more wrong I am. You can sense this mentality creeping into stories we tell ourselves and other people.

How to Be Your Own Mediator: Empathize and Assert at the Same Time

Grande Lum | Posted 08.06.2009 | Living


Grande Lum

Feeling forced to choose to be assertive or empathetic is natural. Yet you may actually feel mixed and even desire to both assert and empathize.

Co-Workers Driving You Bananas? Avoid Getting Bruised!

Fred Whelan and Gladys Stone | Posted 01.17.2009 | Living


Fred Whelan and Gladys Stone

Whether they're arrogant, talkative, pushy, time-sucks, whiners, or over-all annoying, if they're your co-workers, you have to deal with them.

Dumped Over Email

Christine Hassler | Posted 11.21.2008 | Living


Christine Hassler

Dear Christine, The girl I've been dating for six months just broke up with me. But even worse than being dumped is the way she let me know it was ov...

When You Speak, Sometimes Audiences Teach You More Than You Know

Richard Laermer | Posted 07.14.2008 | Business


Richard Laermer

Majestic confidence is false -- it's fake. Looking into the future is uncertain except for those who read magic eight balls with an uncanny ability.