Many of us become ineffective communicators when we feel personally triggered or that our intention is misinterpreted by those we are engaging with -- whether it be family, friends our partner or a stranger.
Each semester on my syllabus I let students know that some questions or concerns can't be resolved via email. And yet I have noticed that my office visiting hours, and those of my colleagues, go mostly unfilled except for right before or after a major assignment.
A person with "oppositional conversational style" is a person who, in conversation, disagrees with and corrects whatever you say. Maybe in a friendly way, maybe in a belligerent way, but their remarks are framed in opposition to whatever you say.
Being a good listener brings many benefits: gathering useful information, making others feel like they matter to you, sustaining a sense of connection with people, and stepping out of your own familiar frame of reference.
And finally there are some, and this might include your own kids, who distance themselves out of divided loyalties or because they simply do not know how to deal with your situation. I call these family members and friends who have disappointed you your Frenemies.