Just because someone is struggling with new and potentially overwhelming challenges doesn't mean the tenor of your relationship with your friend has to change. Allowing her to continue being that friend can be its own form of compassion.
Our survival instinct -- fight, flight, or freeze -- doesn't naturally create space for mercy and compassion in day-to-day living. The ego, encapsulated in the Buddhist notion Noah describes, gets agitated by the open heart that is necessary for forgiveness.
So if your intention is to make this invocation process happen you have to be vigilant in listening to your thoughts, breathing in the positive ones, and letting go of the negatives ones as fast as possible.
Given our societal tendency to want to solve violence by ramping up our own violence in response, Tuff's authentic heroism reminds us that the best, lasting solutions to our challenges is by meeting violence and hatred with kindness, compassion, and unconditional love.
How might we be blocking the kind of cooperation that would bring those to us? Attitude is one big factor. When we are in a state of cooperation, our attitude is one of joy. If we are asked to do something, we do it -- and then some.
In these turbulent times, waking up day after day to news of war and strife, death, despair and disaster - not a corner of the globe untouched - it is more important yet harder than ever to find a sense of peace within.
School bullying statistics in the United States show that about one in four kids in the U.S. are bullied on a regular basis. For these kids, the thought of soon going back to school, won't bring about happy and cheering faces.
It is one thing to hear the importance of compassion expressed from people like the Dalai Lama and other religious leaders, but it is often seen by business people as a nice extra, and not necessarily core to their lives.
As human beings, resiliency is returning to a state of peace, balance, to achieve the inner wisdom that tells us everything is as it should be. When we are resilient we hold our personal power (empowered) and learn invaluable life lessons from what we have experienced.
I was idle at a stop sign. From my rearview mirror I could see the driver, his eyes bugging, mouth agape. His expression didn't tell me anything I didn't already know. I would be in a wreck. No way to avoid it. My evening was about to get complicated.
There are plenty of daily workplace interpersonal interactions that contribute to stress, the largest area of workers compensation claims, but an area that is not considered frequently in regards to stress is the interaction between recruitment and candidates.
Mental illness may be "all in your head," but that doesn't make it less real than having cancer or diabetes. And if someone you know is "vaguebooking" or posting a depressed status, they might be just trying to reach out, to feel less alone in the battle against their own mind.
If you were not well-loved as a child, or you didn't have parents or other caregivers who role-modeled loving themselves, it may be hard to know what it means to love yourself and difficult to know how to do it.