We sometimes avoid compassion for self-interested reasons. Yet this study suggests that turning off compassion might work against self-interest by undercutting two things that we hold dear: our moral self and our moral standards.
In a nutshell, her thesis is this: Intimacy in relationships is frequently -- and inexplicably -- the enemy of sex. The intimacy Perel is referring to is the romantic ideal of semi-conjoined couples who believe that love means quashing mystery in favor of sweet companionship.
Valuing yourself can start by lovingly seeing the innocent child within you -- your essence. This is your true self, and may have been covered over by the fears and false beliefs of your ego-wounded self that you created as you grew up, to try to get love and avoid pain.
We all have been held by a powerful relationship in our lives at one time or another, and those of us fortunate enough to experience that relational power in a business setting have usually seen the results that were delivered to be beyond what would have otherwise been possible.
Sometimes the best way to resolve regret is to start living in the moment. I used to get really mad at people and feel unable to let go of my resentments. I'm not saying today I am perfect, but today I am aware.
How we meet the challenge of the cancer journey effects the quality of our experience and of our lives. We discover the uninvited opportunity to turn suffering into wisdom and compassion and thus heal and transform along the way.
Scott Neeson's life might have been something it would have taken an F.Scott Fitzgerald to capture. As it turns out, this tycoon's story is more inspiring. It underscores, for me, how radically a human being can become someone nearly unrecognizable to the people who once knew him.
When participants in the study meditated they subsequently reported significantly higher levels of spirituality, and they expressed more liberal political attitudes. But how such feelings translate into specific political positions is questionable.
We live in an age where information, demands, and choices are more plentiful than ever. This rush of possibility gives us the illusion that we can do anything without limit. With this rush of possibility and the illusion of no limits comes a relentless urgency to do it all.
Like my haircuts, my birthdays never turn out just the way I want. Somebody important forgets to call and then I realize this is just a day like any other day in history. The next thing I know I'm two skim lattes into a blog post about my irrelevance in the world.
When considering a career path, I'm sure you've been told to"follow your passion," right? If you're doing something that inspires and motivates you more than anything else, it's probably a good road to be on. But this question likely has left you wondering: what is my passion...?
Spirituality is not about becoming the person that you are supposed to be, or about doing the "spiritual" thing. To be spiritual is to compassionately welcome your truth -- what you actually feel -- whether you like that truth or not.
There is no reason why capitalism cannot be supported in a manner in line with the most basic of Buddhist beliefs. Capitalism recognizes human weaknesses and frailties, yet still provides opportunities for compassionate function.