In this new consciousness of loving with abandonment, you no longer hope for that Valentine card that never arrives. Instead, Valentine's Day is every day -- it is the energy that draws you to the lover who loves unconditionally as you do.
If your family rejects a huge part of you, fine, but they don't get to claim they love you unconditionally. And if you let them get away with it, you're not giving them any reason to change.
Since love sits in us between trust and fear, a commitment to love requires daring to trust and freedom from fear, both risks we are willing to take when we love someone.