In the course of writing my upcoming book, The Fear Project, again and again I've been seeing people -- very capable, smart people -- not even attempting their great ideas for one reason: They're afraid of failing.
I sat on the floor of my darkened bedroom with the last moments of November light trickling away. I was talking on the phone with my best friend about leaving my job. This friend knew just how much I loved my job, so she knew something had gone awry.
It's been said that sometimes the fastest way to make a change is to fake it until you make it, and if you want to take an action that transforms your attitude (I'm not kidding) and increases your confidence immediately, you gotta do today's challenge.
And nowhere is the allure of confidence more pervasive than in the workplace. Whether asking for a raise, giving a presentation or just rounding up co-workers for happy hour, we're repeatedly told that being confident will make our career successful. Until now.
The requirement of pleasure, delivered by a gorgeous, skilled, and smitten someone who knows our bodies and desires better than we do.... Is there really any question as to why these books are so popular?
The world we exist in often seems like a topsy-turvy, upside-down reality. When we can observe this more objectively we will see that our established systems of ideas are no longer sustainable or for the betterment of humanity. We thus need to acknowledge this, yet without fear or anger.
From the time I was a teenager, I was the girl telling her friends to be who they are and not care what anyone else thinks. I believe there is beauty in our imperfections. It is what makes us unique. Where I got stuck is in the perfections...
When I was 18 I founded Finding the Fabulous, a non-profit that connects 8-12 year old girls with high school and college role models, who are actively engaging in their lives to break down stereotypes and build up confidence.
Turns out, your toughest competitor isn't standing next to you. It's inside of you. If you will step out of your own shadow, you will be the presenter you want to be -- and you'll create a must-see moment for any audience.