When we acknowledge that everyone experiences pain, that every person struggles with difficult issues, and that most everyone is making up stories too, we can let go of comparing and contrasting and simply see us as all in this together.
We live in a time when we can Google everything, share ideas and expose our children to amazing opportunities, but anyone that implies that they have it figured out is either drunk or lying (or both), so don't be too hard on yourself.
Many think self-love is just a form of narcissism, but the purest love knows no conceit. From a spiritual perspective, loving the self communicates humility and gratitude to whatever force gives us life.
Designing your career destiny takes courage, strength and commitment. As you look to celebrate all that you've accomplished in 2012, consider the following gifts to yourself that cost nothing but are truly priceless.
My kids are smart. They have a genetic predisposition. I was smart. Their dad was smart. We had high GPAs. We graduated college with suma-cum-somethings. We were a parent's dream. Until Henry graduated, couldn't get a job and had to borrow money from his parents.
Suppose you were trying to influence people's opinion about particular policies. Would it be better to talk about the specific policy, or is it more effective to focus on the values related to that policy?
Much as I wanted to lose the 25 pounds, believing that I shouldn't have to was more powerful. And so the weight piled on. And stayed. Finally aware of this underlying belief, I had a decision to make: pride or humility.
I am not "the best" at anything. I can do a few things adequately. I can drive a 5-speed on the steepest hills in San Francisco. I can captain a sailboat. I can do a back handspring (at least, I used to be able to do this). But that's hardly "the best."
The solution to breeding self-confidence in women is to celebrate that their reality, Spanx and all, is aspirational in and of itself. That reality is all of the things that make us amazing women -- like our smarts, or our humor or how we love. Beauty is a thing, not the thing.