Tackling monster challenges -- where failure is the expected outcome because you lack the credentials to succeed -- can be addicting. It's a win-win situation, like being the underdog in a fight: you're expected to lose, but win and you're a hero.
Creating lasting well-being requires shattering those habitual tendencies that lead to stress, frustration and heartbreak. Here are three paths I've been working on for years, and while I'm many miles from mastery, the more I practice, the more peace and happiness I find.
Ask Deepak About Love and Relationships espouses the core philosophy that we all are empowered to direct our own lives and that not only do we learn from our own experiences; we also learn from the experiences of others.
There are two techniques to help you quiet mental clutter and become more powerful. Before a high-stakes interaction, go into the bathroom and spend two minutes in front of the mirror doing the following.
I study the painting, the face of my past. I miss my brother. But even as the tears roll out once more, I feel a love and connection that will never leave. I take a deep breath as the bigger picture settles my soul.
Today I'm reminded that one of my biggest challenges is to do first what really matters -- and to do it before I respond to the siren call of getting as much done as I possibly can. And I know in my heart I'm not alone.
Second-guessing and doubting ourselves can be deadly. It kills our enthusiasm for embarking on a big project, getting involved in a new relationship, and the list goes on. When doubting yourself rears its ugly head, here are ways to put down the monster.
My exploration of personal style made me more aware of my body and my health, showed me that there isn't a single type of gorgeous body, and provided me with a previously untapped outlet for artistic and creative expression.
Being an only child taught me the most valuable skill of all: the ability to be alone. Sure, I had friends growing up, but I was just as content to sit in my bedroom alone, playing with my Playmobil dollhouse as I was to have a friend join me.
What if your heart skips a beat, not necessarily because oh my god, this could be it, but because there is something about him or her that proves your favorite dark thoughts correct? What if the chemistry you are waiting to feel is more like a bad habit than magic?
Scouting for a decent man on campus required a great deal of focus. You had to see past the sprinting engineering students, the slouching athletes and the arguing SIPA grads and try and find the prospects with an ounce of charm.
When we acknowledge that everyone experiences pain, that every person struggles with difficult issues, and that most everyone is making up stories too, we can let go of comparing and contrasting and simply see us as all in this together.
We live in a time when we can Google everything, share ideas and expose our children to amazing opportunities, but anyone that implies that they have it figured out is either drunk or lying (or both), so don't be too hard on yourself.
Many think self-love is just a form of narcissism, but the purest love knows no conceit. From a spiritual perspective, loving the self communicates humility and gratitude to whatever force gives us life.
Designing your career destiny takes courage, strength and commitment. As you look to celebrate all that you've accomplished in 2012, consider the following gifts to yourself that cost nothing but are truly priceless.