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Conformity

Whose Terms Are Those, Anyway?

Devishobha Ramanan | Posted 06.22.2014 | Parents
Devishobha Ramanan

Some of us meet the world's expectations only to realize that it failed to give us the fulfillment we sought within ourselves; some of us burnout mid-way trying to fulfill them; some of us realize that there has to be another way to find what we truly seek.

The Hidden Cost of Fitting In

Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW | Posted 05.20.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Bloom LCSW and Charlie Bloom MSW

Many of us spend our lives twisting ourselves into shapes and postures that are unnatural and uncomfortable in hopes of gaining acceptance from others whose approval we desire. We may contort ourselves into shapes that are entirely unnatural for us.

I Was Tired Of Pressure To Get Married, So I Started A Mannequin Family

Suzanne Heintz | Posted 05.05.2014 | Women
Suzanne Heintz

It was getting late. Seriously late for a woman my age not to have a ring on her finger. People said, "You're such a nice girl, why aren't you married?" But then, I found a way. I bought a beautiful family... of mannequins.

Coming Out for Marriage Equality in Japan

John Lewis | Posted 02.10.2014 | Gay Voices
John Lewis

Coming out appears to be particularly difficult for many Japanese LGBT people because of the importance of social conformity in Japan. Many college students told us that they had known perhaps only one openly LGBT person in their entire lives.

7 Sneaky Influence Tactics You Never Saw Coming

Adam Grant | Posted 01.23.2014 | Business
Adam Grant

What if we didn't let them get away with it? Next time someone uses one of these techniques on you, I hope you'll be more likely to recognize it, and resist.

Reunions, Privilege, and Growing Up on the Wrong Side of the River

Derek Penwell | Posted 11.17.2013 | Religion
Derek Penwell

Although we'd be reluctant to say it out loud, people of privilege tend to believe that we are what the rest of the world would want to be if they knew what was good for them.

6 Reasons Why I Hate the Term 'Personal Brand'

Jill Knapp | Posted 09.12.2013 | Business
Jill Knapp

It seemed impossible to constantly live your life on brand. The sheer pressure and conformity of it all reminds me way too much of trying to be popular in high school.

We're Not All the Same: Embracing Individuality

Troy Roness | Posted 10.01.2013 | Gay Voices
Troy Roness

It's unfortunate that gay men with an unhealthy body image can ultimately hurt our shared commitment to individuality and the wider perception of our community. We have failed to challenge the many reasons that we suffer with an unhealthy preoccupation with the physical.

Living by Clicks

Rabbi David Wolpe | Posted 08.20.2013 | Technology
Rabbi David Wolpe

I shudder to think what would become of preaching if there was an instant approval or disapproval button in the hand of everyone in the congregation. Yet that is what we give to the world when we tweet.

What If Your Socks Didn't Match?

Matt Murrie | Posted 06.25.2013 | Impact
Matt Murrie

Ripples are interesting. They only get bigger -- until they reach their limits. Most mornings, socks are the first pebble I drop into the ocean of my day.

When We Stand Out From the Crowd

Christine Eilvig | Posted 02.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Christine Eilvig

I now understand that we mirror each other back and forth. All issues others may have with me or my opinions are about them. I'm mirroring something unbalanced in them, and the brighter my light shines the stronger I will mirror them back. How it all feels in me? That's my stuff to handle.

Hey, CNN: I'll Analyze My Own Debate Perceptions, Thank You

Sam Sommers | Posted 12.03.2012 | TV
Sam Sommers

Sure, debate spin has always been ridiculous, but now we don't even have to wait until the debate's over to have other people tell us what to think. If having ratings on the screen during the debate sounds like a psychological experiment on conformity, that's because it basically is.

How I Got Over My Crippling Fear Of Marriage

Carlos Andrés Gómez | Posted 12.02.2012 | Weddings
Carlos Andrés Gómez

"You're pushing it, boy. I'm givin' you two months... tops. You need to get it together," and everyone laughed on cue.

Does Conformity Imply Risk Aversion?

Michael R. Powers | Posted 08.21.2012 | Home
Michael R. Powers

It seems fairly evident that risk aversion implies conformity because a society whose members are risk averse would tend to be characterized by a narrow band of actions resulting in predictable outcomes; but is the converse also true?

When Good People Behave Badly

Sam Sommers | Posted 08.11.2012 | Science
Sam Sommers

The psychology of fraud shares a lot in common with the psychology underlying another of society's most pressing ills... the combover.

Artists and the Culture of Conformity

Hayley Rose Horzepa | Posted 06.03.2012 | Home
Hayley Rose Horzepa

Most artists in this country are greatly underappreciated. When I refer to most artists, I am not talking about the musicians and actors who bring hom...

Five Ways Our Need To Fit In Controls Us

Michael Taft | Posted 05.16.2012 | Healthy Living
Michael Taft

As a society, we Westerners exalt individualism and self-reliance, and yet our biology moves us in other directions. Humans evolved as social animals, and we posses a number of behaviors that motivate us towards group conformity.

What Do You Conform To?

Rabbi Josh Feigelson | Posted 04.28.2012 | Healthy Living
Rabbi Josh Feigelson

Conforming has gotten a bad rap of late. Well, not really of late. More like of the last few hundred years.

When Professional Wrestling Meets Presidential Debate

Sam Sommers | Posted 03.19.2012 | Politics
Sam Sommers

This isn't the first time that we've been talking about crowd reactions after a debate. One question we rarely ask, however, is whether these televised responses change the way that those of us at home feel about the candidates.

Mobbing in the Workplace: Even the Good Go Bad

Janice Harper | Posted 01.23.2012 | Business
Janice Harper

Mobbing is widely understood in Europe as a form of collective aggression that profoundly impacts a targeted worker's health and productivity, but less known in the U.S. where "bullying" is a more common explanation for interpersonal workplace aggression.

'Think Different'

Jalees Rehman, M.D. | Posted 12.05.2011 | Religion
Jalees Rehman, M.D.

In many ways, Steve Jobs was the embodiment of the Apple advertising slogan "Think Different".

Keeping Up (and Down) With the Joneses

Sam Sommers | Posted 08.05.2011 | Green
Sam Sommers

Doesn't it seem possible that finding out you use less energy than average would relieve pressure you might otherwise feel to cut back?

Religion And The Question Of Conformity

Jeffrey Small | Posted 06.10.2011 | Religion
Jeffrey Small

A rock band, a priest and a psychologist. Each of these has an interesting statement about the importance of celebrating our uniqueness and the corresponding dangers of conformity.

From Rwanda to Libya: Who's Calling Whom a Cockroach Now?

Steven Hassan | Posted 05.25.2011 | Politics
Steven Hassan

"Cockroaches" the very term used by radio hosts to dehumanize Tutsi in Rwanda on the cusp of the hundred-day slaughter in 1994. How could people turn on their friends and neighbors, and murder them?

The Sadness of Conformity

Kristen Houghton | Posted 11.17.2011 | Healthy Living
Kristen Houghton

There is something very dangerous about total conformity. We don't celebrate who we already are because, according to statistics, we want to be like everyone else!