Creating a connection that is mutually satisfying is two-pronged: eliminate the negative and enhance the positive. Less pain, more pleasure. A simple truth most couples find difficult to practice.

Emotional and psychological trauma is the direct result of very unusually stressful events that tend to fracture our sense of safety and security. These events, like the tragic bombings in Boston this week, leave us feeling vulnerable and scared.

But what I missed in all this searching for leisure professionals is doing leisure mentoring, coaching, or consulting for people who simply want to have fun and want some guidance in how to make the most of their leisure time -- and where to get these leisure experiences.

Within most adult folks there is an inner wisdom that would offer great assistance in resolving the impasses of our life. Therapy is about accessing our inner, innate wisdom, not replacing it with someone else's.

It was a long, slow journey to recovery. But at the end of the road was a light far brighter than I had ever imagined possible. All it took in the end was a phone call.

"Just like learning to play an instrument, or learning a new language, or developing a muscle, learning new habits of the mind requires continued practice."