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Critical Inner Voice

The 'Roommate' in Your Head

Alex Kip | Posted 07.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Alex Kip

When we think that this inner voice is us, all we're hearing is negative things over and over again on repeat, then suddenly we think we're a worthless person incapable of achieving anything. Not only that, but when this voice runs our life, we're not even living in this world.

4 Things We Must Change to Stop Self-Sabotaging

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.22.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

The more fully we live and love, the more sadness we are bound to experience. Our inner critic tries to shield us from feeling the joys and pains of existence. It keeps us in a chronic state of numbness or dissatisfaction. In order to face our fears, we must consciously identify and actively ignore this coaching.

The Perfect 'Imperfect' Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

I don't believe in soul mates. That doesn't mean I don't believe in true love or the idea that two people can find each other and be truly happy together for the rest of their lives. What I reject, rather, is the belief that there is only one person in the world for us.

Is There a Cure for Narcissism?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.06.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we emphasize compassion over esteem and measure our successes in terms of what we give as opposed to what we get, we build a solid sense of self that can leave us feeling less stress and more satisfaction in our lives. We can overcome insecurities and accomplish much more. And when we fall short, we can take a positive and resilient attitude that ensures better outcomes in the future.

One Surprising Reason We Sabotage Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.28.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can learn what drives contemporary behavior by shining a spotlight on our past. In doing so, we're not dwelling on what happened to us or letting it rule our lives. Rather, we are taking control of our present.

What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Outlook On Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

What if we could identify the filter that shapes our perception of the world and change it so as to have a better life?

5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

We can start challenging ourselves to accept love -- to return a loving look, rather than turning away in embarrassment. We can approach our defenses with curiosity and compassion and slowly start to change our part of the equation that limits our capacity for love.

5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.26.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When you love yourself, you are better equipped to act with integrity in your relationships. You become a person you respect, and you give your relationship its best chance at survival.

7 Reasons Most People Are Afraid of Love

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

No matter what the timeline, the story of lost love is one most of us can tell. This leaves the question "why do relationships fail?" to linger heavily in the back of our minds. The answer for many of us can be found within. Whether we know it or not, most of us are afraid of really being in love.

A New Year's Resolution Worth Making

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.07.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Setting goals for ourselves is an essential step to a fulfilling life. Yet, New Year's resolutions tend to have a bad rep. Why is this? For one thing,...

What It Means to Be Loving

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.11.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

While love seems to be a universally valued attribute, defining love in behavioral terms can be a challenging undertaking.

How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Overcoming our critical inner voice can be a vital step in becoming more emotionally resilient. We can learn skills to become hardier, and we can face challenges with fewer internal setbacks.

The Benefits of Talking About Sex

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Women
Lisa Firestone

Talking about sex, while it may feel uncomfortable at first, can be the key to maintaining a healthy sex life and a positive sense of one's own sexuality.

8 Secrets of Undesired Singlehood

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

It is scary to take a chance and go for what we want and compete, but when we do, we most often find it is well worth it to face our fears. We end up with a stronger sense of self, and we increase our chances of creating a relationship with the partner we really desire.

6 Truths About Depression and How to Overcome It

Lisa Firestone | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

For people struggling with depression, it's important to have compassion for yourself and to take actions to overcome this state, including seeking help. Remember that no matter what your critical inner voice may be telling you, the situation is far from hopeless.

On The Power Of Choosing Your Thoughts

Lisa Firestone | Posted 10.08.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we learn mindfulness, we gain the power of familiarizing ourselves with our thoughts and our patterns. We can get to know our critical inner voices, and we can start to recognize when these cruel thoughts start to surface.

Why Do Break Ups Hurt So Much?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 09.16.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Any people decide to call it quits after months or even years of emotional estrangement and physical distance. Then, why is it that couples who rarely show affection or who barely relate often feel panicked at the loss of their partner?

Why It's Better To Be The Vulnerable One

Lisa Firestone | Posted 08.12.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

While it may sometimes feel like we have to outsmart our feelings so as not to get hurt, when it comes to our relationships, we are far better off being vulnerable, making a practice of being the one who loves more.

How Mindfulness Can Save Your Relationship

Lisa Firestone | Posted 07.31.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Mindfulness presents a valuable tool for facing the daily challenges of staying close to our partner. It allows us to become more centered and calm, so we can talk things out instead of spiraling into a screaming match.

How Your Wallet Is Crushing Your Self-Esteem (And How To Make It Stop)

Lisa Firestone | Posted 06.30.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

You may not be able to control the economy or every aspect of your own finances, but you can take control of your attitude and find a great deal of power within your own mentality, integrity, and emotional intelligence.

Are You the Parent You Want to Be?

Lisa Firestone | Posted 05.07.2013 | Parents
Lisa Firestone

We all have something that triggers us as parents, be it defiance, tantrums, nagging, or whining. When we are triggered, we may not react to our kids appropriately. However, we often don't realize how much how we are reacting in the present has to do with feelings from our past.

4 Steps To Conquer Your Inner Critic

Lisa Firestone | Posted 04.23.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

When we fail to identify and separate from this inner critic, we allow it to impact our behavior and shape the direction of our lives. So how can we challenge this inner voice?

5 Questions That Will Lead You to a Better Year

Lisa Firestone | Posted 03.02.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

New Year's tends to be a time of looking forward. Yet, in our effort to set goals for the future, it's meaningful to reflect on the past year and make sense of what our experiences have meant to us. What can they teach us?

5 Achievable Resolutions For A Longer, Happier Life

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Taking a positive and proactive approach to our goals gives us the best chance of achieving lasting change. As we take on resolutions that will help us to become our best selves, we must treat ourselves with compassion, sensitivity, and respect.

Glass Half-Full: How To Be A Little Less Cynical

Lisa Firestone | Posted 02.04.2013 | Healthy Living
Lisa Firestone

Ultimately, it is always in our own self-interest to be open and vulnerable rather than to be nasty or write people off. The only person we can control is ourselves. When we get cynical, we are the ones who suffer.