I cannot thank Mr. Peters enough for putting so much effort into writing such an outstanding book and highly recommend that every professional involved in dispute and/or conflict resolution and everyone involved in a dispute and/or conflict take the time to read this book.
Parents are correct in the notion that causing the children to take sides can be extremely useful in their divorce game of chess. However, unlike chess, divorce is not a game and children are not pawns.
When people consider the impact of divorce on children, they typically focus on minor children. Is this because they somehow believe that once children reach the age of majority, their parents' divorce doesn't affect them?
Divorce doesn't need any extra punishment. Many men and women going through it already feel like failures without the help of any legal entities. There's got to be a way to prevent the pain. And, of course, not make some divorces last longer than the marriages themselves.
Stories of women who are losing custody of their children to batterers and child abusers are not unique. They are the tip of the proverbial iceberg indicating a grave and growing injury to human rights.
If I was a custody judge, charged with picking the best home for a baby, I'd like to say I'd pick the loving one. I had a ridiculously loving, happy childhood, and I feel the effects of that every day.