There are thousands of tiny shortcuts that our brains take, but with the right practice we can train ourselves to think slowly and avoid these mental misjudgments. In particular, successful people often develop their own simple strategies.
If you practice telling yourself the truth on a regular basis and in everyday interactions, it will strengthen your better self, and it will become easier to make conscious choices that feed the relationship, even when things get out of hand.
Looking back, I can better appreciate the incredible amount of grace my parents have shown. While it may not have mattered to me as a child, the complete lack of privacy and the inability to dictate their own comings and goings must have posed real challenges for my parents.
The wise person understands why we run from questions that we might not be able to answer, and why we wrongly avoid other obstacles or risks that we should face. Our default emotions have evolved to lament loss more than to celebrate gain.
Cognitive biases can be characterized as the tendency to make decisions and take action based on limited acquisition and/or processing of information or on self-interest, overconfidence, or attachment to past experience.
Of course, there is no way we can completely resist all the genetic, neurological, psychological, emotional and social forces that influence our decision making. But a few simple steps can prevent us from making truly appalling decisions.
Create situations in which everyone gets to use best talents, working on projects that reflect a strong sweet spot of shared interest. In so doing you may play a different character role in the story that unfolds and make the storyline more adventuresome and satisfying.
Dan Ariely's latest book applies his experimental approach to how we "lie to everyone -- especially ourselves." He asks us to remember our fallibility and irrationality, so that we might protect ourselves against our tendency to fool ourselves.
Listen up! I have just finished reading the brilliant, fast-paced How To Be A Rogue Trader in global finance by the prize-winning Associate Editor of the Financial Times, John Gapper and hereby recommend it as required reading, ASAP.
Here's the classic economic view of your car-purchasing behavior: You walk into a dealership, choose a car based on brand, color, cylinders, looks and general feel and then start comparing prices among different options.
The adult industry has been a long time proponent of our right to Free Speech, and from the days of Naked Lunch, to the more recent battle over required condom use, Americans have been trying to define what is pornographically acceptable for years.