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Death Amp Dying

Giving Thanks for a Sweet Goodbye

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

In my years of working with grieving clients, I have all too frequently heard grievers lament "Why didn't we ever talk about death when she was alive?" "I wish we had been able to say goodbye." On the other hand, seldom have I heard regrets from people who did have the conversation.

Death Is Not Destroy

Yasmin Grothé | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Yasmin Grothé

At one point I called him one night, panic-stricken, asking what I was going to do without him and he calmly said: "But sweetheart, if death was such a huge problem, don't you think we would have found a solution already?"

10 Things Death Can Teach

Cassie Premo Steele | Posted 11.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Cassie Premo Steele

When I was studying Mexican literature in graduate school, I learned about the Days of the Dead, which were celebrated just a few days ago. While most people here in the United States rarely celebrate death, I have come to learn that there are many lessons that death can teach.

Inside An NYC Park: A Discovery

Bonnie Gleicher | Posted 01.23.2014 | New York
Bonnie Gleicher

The 40 to 60-somethings: They bring a book to read, every now and then looking up at the strollers passing by. But the 70-year-olds and up -- the ones who have lived the most life -- they arrive at the park with nothing. No phone, no book.

How to Write a Condolence Letter: 5 Suggestions

Kathleen Buckstaff | Posted 11.06.2013 | Healthy Living
Kathleen Buckstaff

Who knows what to say when someone dies? Often, not knowing what to say, we put off writing the note and eventually don't say anything. The intention to write is there, but what to say isn't easy or obvious.

Just Keep Breathing: Coping With the Loss of a Young Adult Child to Cancer

Pat Taylor | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Pat Taylor

What I did to keep breathing is different from what someone else will choose to do. I think that is the key word: choose. We can either choose to follow our child into the grave or learn to live without them. Live or die? Cancer stole their young lives... will it steal yours, too?

Don't Be Afraid to Touch Death

Judith Johnson | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

How sad to live in a lie at the end of one's life. How sad to risk regrets, not realizing the blessings that come with the alternative -- a depth of intimacy that we may never have experienced before and that will never be available again.

Why I Still Believe in God

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 01.23.2014 | Religion
Kristin Meekhof

Often during these conversations, the question that I am most frequently asked is this: How do you trust in God after your husband died? My answer is always hesitant because there are days when I'm not sure how or why I continue to believe.

The Light Side of the Top 10 Darkest Dreams

Kelly Sullivan Walden | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kelly Sullivan Walden

It's that time of year when the veil between worlds is thin. "What worlds?" you ask. The world of the so-called living and dead. Halloween is the t...

Ghosts, Goblins and Grief

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

Holidays are a mixed bag. A griever can't help but have mixed reactions to certain accessories that characterize Halloween and Dia de Los Muertos. If you know someone who is grieving, be sensitive to their perceptions and reactions.

How We Die Is Not Our Whole Story

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

My parents and I heard phrases like, "What a waste." At grief groups, I was embarrassed to say how he died. As if him dying from drugs and alcohol meant I had less of a right to be there than if his life had been claimed by a car accident or a heart defect.

The Gravity in Gravity

Rabbi Daniel Cohen | Posted 12.17.2013 | Entertainment
Rabbi Daniel Cohen

In my mind, the film is about transcending gravity; the quest to live life a few feet off the ground. The Kaballah teaches that growth and impact emerge from living outside our comfort zone. The ground offers security but the most memorable moments in life and fulfillment arise when we strive to live a little higher and brighter.

Hospice Voices

Kristin Meekhof | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristin Meekhof

Hospice is a difficult decision for anyone, but it allowed me to bring my late husband home, somewhere he desperately wanted to be.

5 Ways to Connect With a Dying Loved One

Jeanne Dennis | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Jeanne Dennis

The simplest -- and, at the same time, the most difficult -- way to connect at the bedside of a dying loved one is to just be. Let your thoughts land softly, or alternatively, take flight.

When Does Grief End?

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 11.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Fredda Wasserman

Remember that grief is a process. Although the pain of grief often comes upon us all at once in a crushing blow, the pain lessens gradually.

Continuing to Learn What's Important

Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs | Posted 11.26.2013 | Religion
Rev. Dr. Martha R. Jacobs

I learned so much from him in my early years as a chaplain, and I was privileged to learn from him, yet again, almost 15 years later, as we talked about his dying.

Embracing the Dark and the Light: Lessons of the Equinox

Lynn Shattuck | Posted 11.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Lynn Shattuck

I started to breathe again. I started getting dressed before noon. I went to grief groups and I spoke. I stopped hiding, for maybe the first time ever. I started writing down the memories of my brother that flitted through my mind, unburied by his absence.

For Pedro, Duck and All the Others

Abbye E. Meyer | Posted 11.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Abbye E. Meyer

It'll be just Pedro and me who go to the hospital, and I'll let his meatball head rest in my hand as the two of us share that private moment, probably crying and drooling, and definitely feeling exhausted. On that day, Pedro hopefully will be left with some relief, and I'll be left.

The Detritus of Death

Jana Novak | Posted 11.18.2013 | Healthy Living
Jana Novak

A friend died of cancer a few weeks ago. That, of course, in itself is unsettling, heartbreaking, emotional. But I knew almost immediately that it wa...

Do You Have 'The Little Blue Book' in Your House?

Judith Johnson | Posted 11.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Judith Johnson

If you are wondering what I'm talking about, it is for you that I am writing this blog! Here's the bottom line: We were all born one moment of one day...

Top 5 Regrets Of The Dying

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. | Posted 11.11.2013 | Healthy Living
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D.

Use these as a north star to help guide your actions in the days that follow toward an even more fulfilling life. Although we can veer off the path, when we notice the star, we can always come back to it.

Dying Each Day

Edie Weinstein | Posted 11.10.2013 | Healthy Living
Edie Weinstein

Sometimes the hardest thing is to face the death of who we believed ourselves to be throughout our lives. Shedding the façade, peeling off the disguise, owning our choices, speaking our truth and being fully seen for who we are can be the most daunting death of all.

Share Your Problems With Me

Lauren Kahn | Posted 11.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Lauren Kahn

Just because someone is struggling with new and potentially overwhelming challenges doesn't mean the tenor of your relationship with your friend has to change. Allowing her to continue being that friend can be its own form of compassion.

Writer to Writer: A Conversation with M.J. Rose

Mark Rubinstein | Posted 10.27.2013 | Books
Mark Rubinstein

M.J. Rose is the international best-selling author of 13 novels and three non-fiction books. Her most recent novel, Seduction, has received rave reviews from USA Today, Publisher's Weekly and many others.

How to Help a Friend Who Is Grieving

JD Bailey | Posted 10.26.2013 | Healthy Living
JD Bailey

Grief is uncomfortable. It is foreign. It is an ill-fitting garment that pinches you in all the wrong places. You can feel like you've shed it for a while, and then it can unexpectedly wrap you up like an unwanted sweater in July.