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Death of a Parent

I Didn't Know How To Live With My Father's Illness

Linda Varlese | Posted 03.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Varlese

Not a day goes by that I don't look for him in other people's faces. Not a day goes by that I don't grasp to hold the memories together. Not a day goes by that I don't try to hear his voice again so that I won't lose it. Not a day goes by that I don't try to question him for the answers to my doubts.

Grief in the Time of Facebook

Jill Di Donato | Posted 03.04.2014 | Women
Jill Di Donato

Facebook can be seen as a digital scrapbook, a journal, a way to collect memories in an interactive way, and therefore, it is a modern-day narrative, a timeline to "make sense of what happened."

Coming Home

Robin Korth | Posted 04.05.2014 | Women
Robin Korth

We were all together again. It had been many years since all of my tribe had gathered in one place. Dad had called us all home. In that, we were pleased and happy to see each other

Why I Can't Stop Taking Photos of My Kids

Cara Paiuk | Posted 03.29.2014 | Parents
Cara Paiuk

I want them to hear my voice, through movies and through my words. I want them to see themselves through my eyes, through my pictures. I want them to hear us laugh together. I want them to see that I could not stop kissing their delicious cheeks. I want them to see that I was happy. Because of them. Because of the love that enveloped us every day.

What You Should Know About Your Parents' Affairs

Jim T. Miller | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

My pastor recently suggested that I get informed on my elderly parents' financial situation and end-of-life plans so I can be better prepared when something happens to them. What's the best way to handle this and what all do I need to find out?

Why The Best Years Of My Life Were The Last Of My Parents' Lives

Peggie Walsh | Posted 12.25.2013 | Fifty
Peggie Walsh

I made a commitment. I told my husband I was going to make my parents a top priority in my life. He agreed. On my mom's 80th birthday in 1999, we physically moved my parents to a new home less than a mile from our house.

Capitol Hill Shooting: Child Unharmed?

Kerry L. Malawista, MSW, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kerry L. Malawista, MSW, Ph.D.

The news arrived as a text on my phone: Shooting on Capitol Hill, nation's capitol on lockdown. I live and work near Washington, D.C. Like most of ...

Last Gasp

Judith Greenberg, Ph.D. | Posted 11.03.2013 | Parents
Judith Greenberg, Ph.D.

Today, I am paralyzed, unable to undertake the demands of life that Labor Day both harkens and delays: writing I've put off, doctors' appointments to schedule, kids' summer homework assignments to check. She would be doing these too. Instead, today I am going to her funeral.

Write for Your Life

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 10.14.2013 | Divorce
Robin Amos Kahn

In 2009 I went through almost the entire list of life's most stressful events. To say I got hit by what felt like a tsunami of loss would not be an exaggeration. I was in so much pain, I could barely take a deep breath.

The Date On My Calendar I Couldn't Ignore

Katelyn Mullen | Posted 10.02.2013 | Women
Katelyn Mullen

It arrives every year, like clockwork. It's the type of day you know all of the people that care about you remember, but you also hope they will forget. There is the idea of going about your business like it's any old day of the year, but that is utterly impossible.

Three Years Later

Robyn Stoller | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Robyn Stoller

Whenever there is an issue with one of our children, I will always wonder if it has something to do with the fact that they lost their father. Although I will never truly know if this is the reason behind certain circumstances, I've learned to realize that the answer doesn't really matter.

My Father Died From West Nile Virus in NYC

David Mager | Posted 08.24.2013 | Healthy Living
David Mager

Last summer my father fell ill and fell down and hit his head, taking out much of one tiled wall in his bathroom. Although he was still conscious and ...

How to Find Lost Life Insurance Policies

Jim T. Miller | Posted 08.18.2013 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

Lost or forgotten life-insurance policies are actually quite common in the U.S. In fact, it's estimated that around $1 billion in benefits from unclaimed life-insurance policies are waiting to be claimed by their rightful beneficiaries.

The Loss of a Father

Gina Barreca | Posted 07.28.2013 | Healthy Living
Gina Barreca

What I carry from him, like coins in my pocket against the poverty of his loss, is an understanding that all any of us has is whatever is left of the day. And I make the most of it, hay while the sun shines, and I raise a toast to life.

The Parent Left Behind

Emily Cappo | Posted 07.24.2013 | Fifty
Emily Cappo

I think I was around 42 years old when I first started to worry about my parents getting older. My mom had just turned 70 and my dad, 75.

How To Break The News Of A Parent's Death

Carole Brody Fleet | Posted 07.20.2013 | Fifty
Carole Brody Fleet

Seldom will anything break your heart as easily as the sight of your child in unbelievable emotional pain... and what greater pain is there to a child than the tragic loss of a parent. Though it has been many years since his death, my daughter still experiences bouts of sadness because Daddy is not here anymore.

Ann Brenoff

Would You Want Your Kids To Feel This Way About Your Death?

HuffingtonPost.com | Ann Brenoff | Posted 05.09.2013 | Fifty

Am I upset that my dad died? Not anywhere near as upset as I am that he chose to never live.

Celebrating Life and Love

Donna Steinhorn | Posted 06.05.2013 | Healthy Living
Donna Steinhorn

I had been told by a few friends who had been down this path, that to have your parent die in your arms was an amazing experience. One described it as "radiant." I admit I was skeptical, yet in the last hours of her life I didn't want to leave her side.

A Beautiful Death

Lauren Cahn | Posted 06.01.2013 | Healthy Living
Lauren Cahn

I can't say that my father was ready for death or that any of us was ready for him to go. But I believe that thanks to hospice care, and some miracle of timing and life force and will that I will never quite understand, my dad's death was as beautiful as a death can be.

Living With My Mother's Death

Next Avenue | Posted 03.30.2013 | Fifty

SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue By Peter Gerstenzang Everyone thought I was handling it well, staying strong. Everyone was wrong. It was hardly an h...

The Hardest Decision I've Ever Made

Shelley Emling | Posted 05.06.2013 | Women
Shelley Emling

At the age of 34, I was the consumer affairs reporter at The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. I was happily married with an 18-month-old son. And my best friend and mother was dying.

My Mother, The Beauty Queen

Mindy Trotta | Posted 04.17.2013 | Fifty
Mindy Trotta

She worked hard in her new country to maintain some semblance of normalcy, and as I look back on her life now I realize just how difficult that was. Her only true happiness came through us, her children, and ironically the pressure it put upon us pushed us away.

Sign of Peace From a Fighter's Spirit

Anne Vitiello | Posted 02.27.2013 | Healthy Living
Anne Vitiello

The thing about someone who was a key part of your life is that even when they leave it, even after years pass, they still are -- just from a different place. I still want to hear my dad's voice, but I will accept hearing it in dreams, or seeing it in snowfall, or smelling it in good food.

Mom Taught Me How to Live and Die With Courage, Spirit and Spunk: Learn From Her, Too

Connie Bennett | Posted 02.20.2013 | Healthy Living
Connie Bennett

All of us still living can learn from my mother. Mom offered a stellar example of how best to leave this earth: The secret to dying well is to seize the moment with courage and determination and to squeeze as much joy, fun and deliciousness as you can while doing what you most love.

How My Dad's Life Insurance Rescued My Family

LearnVest | Posted 02.09.2013 | Women
LearnVest

Mom and Dad had just moved us to a tiny town in North Carolina to be closer to family. They bought some land, started building their dream home and convinced my grandparents to build a little home nearby. They had a lot of financial obligations that depended on my father's income.