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Death of a Parent

Why I Still Wear My Mother's Robe 3 Years After Her Death

Michelle Frost | Posted 12.11.2014 | Fifty
Michelle Frost

My mother died three years ago. Every morning I wake up, and without thinking I put on her robe. Of all the precious things she gave me; a sense of humor, a love of Mondays, her favorite ring and her golf shoes, it is her robe I love the most. It is soft, pink, and what was.

To Her, I Was

Tricia McCallum | Posted 11.25.2014 | Parents
Tricia McCallum

Her name was Catherine. Her favorite song was "Imagine" by John Lennon. Her favorite color, yellow. She knew the words to just about any song you could name and would sing at the drop of a hat.

Parenting While Coping With the Loss of a Parent

Amy Heinz | Posted 11.11.2014 | Parents
Amy Heinz

I'm unprepared to be a mom who no longer has a dad. But that's who I am. So instead of looking to my dad for advice, I'm looking for signs of him as inspiration

The First Year Without Her

Meaghan McGoldrick | Posted 10.27.2014 | Healthy Living
Meaghan McGoldrick

Twelve months in and you accept that the month she died will always be the hardest. It's been 364 days since you held her hand and pulled the plug, but you still can't bear to listen to old voicemails, afraid of what her voice on tape might do to you (even though you've heard her laugh every day since she died).

The Upside of Early Loss

Kristina Cowan | Posted 10.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kristina Cowan

Jim's tragedy seemed insulting to my already-injured family. Jim died on Sept. 5; my mom died on Sept. 7. She was 46 and I was 15. Jim was 47 and his oldest child was 15. History, cruel beast, had repeated herself in a mocking chorus of eerie parallels.

My Sweetest Songs

Tricia McCallum | Posted 12.08.2014 | Healthy Living
Tricia McCallum

It's war torn and sepia-colored now, parchment like, but the little scrap of paper containing this verse has long been a treasure of mine, a template for any poem I write.

'This Is What It Feels Like To Be Fatherless'

Lisa K. Friedman | Posted 11.16.2014 | Fifty
Lisa K. Friedman

I'd never experienced seasickness before. I'd been on ocean trawlers, cruisers, catamarans, and pontoons and never had a queasy moment. I was suddenly alone in space, shivering and sick inside my foul weather gear.

The Black Dress

Susannah Lewis | Posted 09.26.2014 | Parents
Susannah Lewis

Before I could fall to my knees and sob into the black polished cotton, I was interrupted by a kind tone and a smiling face.

Do You Have to Be Reasonable When You're Grieving?

Megan Devine | Posted 09.16.2014 | Healthy Living
Megan Devine

I could pretend, but that pretending cost me. I could be reasonable, but telling that lie was exhausting. Now, when I read about grief, when I attend conferences that talk about grief, I think about those early days. I think about being reasonable. I think of how ridiculous that is.

Remembering Mom and Dad

Fredda Wasserman | Posted 08.02.2014 | Impact
Fredda Wasserman

Leah was only 23 years old when her mother and father died from accidental carbon monoxide poisoning leaking from a water heater in their home in Africa in 2007. Though their deaths were sudden, shocking and devastating, Leah has developed, thrived and maintained a close connection to their memories.

Mom and Me

Michelle Madison | Posted 07.11.2014 | Women
Michelle Madison

I have learned that life's struggles are meant to be shared and not carried alone. I have learned that you don't wait to say "I love you" until the person is sick or dying; you say it every day. You make sure the people in your life know how important they are to you.

11 Things to Do This Mothers Day to 'Mother Yourself'

Gloria Horsley | Posted 07.09.2014 | Women
Gloria Horsley

I know for some of you Mother's Day will be difficult not just due to a death, but to other types of losses as well such as illness or divorce. For those who are feeling sad and confused I would like to share with you a few things I did that helped me through those early unhopeful Mother's Days.

The Long Goodbye

Elizabeth Flora Ross | Posted 06.30.2014 | Parents
Elizabeth Flora Ross

Right now I am on the worst roller coaster ride of my life, and I desperately want off. But there is no end in sight.

I Didn't Know How To Live With My Father's Illness

Linda Varlese | Posted 05.14.2014 | Healthy Living
Linda Varlese

Not a day goes by that I don't look for him in other people's faces. Not a day goes by that I don't grasp to hold the memories together. Not a day goes by that I don't try to hear his voice again so that I won't lose it. Not a day goes by that I don't try to question him for the answers to my doubts.

Grief in the Time of Facebook

Jill Di Donato | Posted 05.04.2014 | Women
Jill Di Donato

Facebook can be seen as a digital scrapbook, a journal, a way to collect memories in an interactive way, and therefore, it is a modern-day narrative, a timeline to "make sense of what happened."

Coming Home

Robin Korth | Posted 04.05.2014 | Women
Robin Korth

We were all together again. It had been many years since all of my tribe had gathered in one place. Dad had called us all home. In that, we were pleased and happy to see each other

Why I Can't Stop Taking Photos of My Kids

Cara Paiuk | Posted 03.29.2014 | Parents
Cara Paiuk

I want them to hear my voice, through movies and through my words. I want them to see themselves through my eyes, through my pictures. I want them to hear us laugh together. I want them to see that I could not stop kissing their delicious cheeks. I want them to see that I was happy. Because of them. Because of the love that enveloped us every day.

What You Should Know About Your Parents' Affairs

Jim T. Miller | Posted 03.08.2014 | Fifty
Jim T. Miller

My pastor recently suggested that I get informed on my elderly parents' financial situation and end-of-life plans so I can be better prepared when something happens to them. What's the best way to handle this and what all do I need to find out?

Why The Best Years Of My Life Were The Last Of My Parents' Lives

Peggie Walsh | Posted 12.25.2013 | Fifty
Peggie Walsh

I made a commitment. I told my husband I was going to make my parents a top priority in my life. He agreed. On my mom's 80th birthday in 1999, we physically moved my parents to a new home less than a mile from our house.

Capitol Hill Shooting: Child Unharmed?

Kerry L. Malawista, MSW, Ph.D. | Posted 01.23.2014 | Healthy Living
Kerry L. Malawista, MSW, Ph.D.

The news arrived as a text on my phone: Shooting on Capitol Hill, nation's capitol on lockdown. I live and work near Washington, D.C. Like most of ...

Last Gasp

Judith Greenberg, Ph.D. | Posted 11.03.2013 | Parents
Judith Greenberg, Ph.D.

Today, I am paralyzed, unable to undertake the demands of life that Labor Day both harkens and delays: writing I've put off, doctors' appointments to schedule, kids' summer homework assignments to check. She would be doing these too. Instead, today I am going to her funeral.

Write for Your Life

Robin Amos Kahn | Posted 10.14.2013 | Divorce
Robin Amos Kahn

In 2009 I went through almost the entire list of life's most stressful events. To say I got hit by what felt like a tsunami of loss would not be an exaggeration. I was in so much pain, I could barely take a deep breath.

The Date On My Calendar I Couldn't Ignore

Katelyn Mullen | Posted 10.02.2013 | Women
Katelyn Mullen

It arrives every year, like clockwork. It's the type of day you know all of the people that care about you remember, but you also hope they will forget. There is the idea of going about your business like it's any old day of the year, but that is utterly impossible.

Three Years Later

Robyn Stoller | Posted 09.07.2013 | Healthy Living
Robyn Stoller

Whenever there is an issue with one of our children, I will always wonder if it has something to do with the fact that they lost their father. Although I will never truly know if this is the reason behind certain circumstances, I've learned to realize that the answer doesn't really matter.

My Father Died From West Nile Virus in NYC

David Mager | Posted 08.24.2013 | Healthy Living
David Mager

Last summer my father fell ill and fell down and hit his head, taking out much of one tiled wall in his bathroom. Although he was still conscious and ...