Everyone and their grandmas are on this strange microcosm of humanity called Facebook. The social network sounds nice and idealistic -- but it often changes people's personalities, at least how they come across online.
With social media, the goal is to accumulate as many so-called friends as possible. The message that children who spend a great deal of time in these forms of social media is that quantity trumps quality. So children may come to value friendships in terms of numbers rather than depth.
When I'm interviewed by reporters about friendship, I'm often asked about my feelings about Facebook. And then they seem surprised, and a little disappointed, when I simply answer, "I love Facebook as one of the tools we can use for our friendships."
I used to write for Christian magazines. I profiled Hollywood celebrities of the Christian faith throughout the years, and every now and then I became friends with actors who turned out to be "not good for the gays." Victoria Jackson was my first famous friend.
Last week my procrastination led me to conduct a classmate search on Facebook in which I noticed that a girl who had been my friend now had an "add as a friend" rectangle next to her face. "Add as a friend?"